My fiancé and I were invited via text to a destination wedding (in Mexico) that is coming up in just a few months (beginning of April). Is this incredibly rude or am I missing something?
It's unlikely that we'll go as we're obviously planning a wedding of our own but I wanted to get thoughts from the crowd on the etiquette of this. It basically feels as though we're being invited to an elopement given the destination and short notice.
Re: Invited via text to destination wedding
Do you think this it for the invitation or just some friends giving you a heads up?
I find it bizarre that anyone would invite someone to a destination wedding via text, but my husband was once invited to a (local) wedding 2 days beforehand via FB message so who knows.
Either way, I don't think you can entirely ignore it. At the very least you should let them know you're not coming (if that is a final decision) in case there was some sort of mix-up with the invites.
Yeah, that would get a hearty "hell no" from me.
If you DO want to give reasons why you're saying No, then it's easy to just say "Thanks for the invite. Mexico in April sounds like a great time. We usually plan our travel further in advance (or we've already planned other vacations, or we won't have time to budget for it, or we're too caught up in our own wedding planning to go on a trip right now), but hope you have an awesome time and I can't wait to see pics".
I would also be wondering if I was B-listed and asked only to fill a minimum, and how legitimate the invite was. But OP, it sounds like this couple is SUPERRRR casual. Which is fine, but the B&G also have to realize that being so casual and last minute means less guests are likely to attend.
Fine for you to decline the invitation. "Sorry, we can't make it".
True. But the formality of the invitation should match the formality of the event. Some would argue (we've had this discussion a few times before on TK), that a wedding is by definition a formal event, even if it's not FORMAL.
And we're also talking about a destination wedding in the OPs case. Most people require more than 3 months to plan and book time off work for a specific date and location.
Being so casual and laid back that you can't be bothered to send actual invitations just comes across as lazy to me.
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