Just need to get this off my chest because my SIL is driving me CRAZY. She lives about 2 hours away from us, and we finally just made it to their house to celebrate Christmas. Long story short, we show up and her 1 yr old promptly starts throwing up EVERYWHERE. She repeatedly wipes it up with paper towels (or leaves my husband to clean it up), never once whipping out any semblance of sanatizer or cleaner. She also prepares food (having not once washed her hands) and then proceeds to hold the puking baby at the dinner table all through dinner. I watched the kid blow chunks at the dinner table twice. Does she put him to bed? Nope, continues to hold him for the rest of the night until everyone goes to bed around midnight, occasionally passing her dry heaving baby off to either my husband or myself. She maintains the whole night that he is "just choking" on food because he isn't great at eating just yet. I personally go to bed irate, only maintaining my calm because I have purposely downed a bottle of wine to numb my senses. I wake up in the middle of the night to her daughter puking. Awesome. I woke up that morning- forced my husband out the door immediately, seriously grossed out by the entire experience. She made a point to say on our way out that her kids "definitely got some kind of food poisoning and are in no way contagious". Yes we've moved on from choking to food poisoning. Before you judge my harsh reaction, this is the FOURTH TIME this has happened. One time she brought her knowingly ill child to our house for a birthday dinner and put her to sleep in our bed. Each and every one of these times one or the both of us have gotten rip-roaring stomach bugs. No matter what- it is never her fault "Actually I think you gave us all food poisoning" (my personal favorite), "you fed my daughter too much cheese and that's the only reason she's sick- your sickness is unrelated" (this blame probably would have worked on me had I not gotten the bug myself) and of course the most recent "its choking, no wait, food poisoning, it's not contagious"- funny, because my husband has been keeled over a toilet for the past 12 hours. I'm having issues with this for a couple of reasons- one is the obvious blaming and inability to take responsibility. I cannot for the life of me figure out why in the world she does this. Another is the general neglect she shows when her family members are sick. Why put your baby in our bed when you knows she is sick? Or better yet, why not just reschedule? Or at the very least give us a heads up? Why do you wait until we get to your house to tell us half of your house has a raging stomach bug? (another of the four instances) The most recent experience, I admit, she had no way of knowing her kid was sick, and I would never fault her for that, but is it necessary to have him at the dinner table!?! This last experience put me over the edge and I finally said something to my husband. I've been biting my tongue for the past two years thinking to myself, surely this won't happen again...and yet it does, over, and over, and over again. He seemed genuinely surprised that I was so mad about it. I tried to explain that I would feel the exact same way if it were my sister (or any other human being on the earth) and that I think her actions are inconsiderate of others, and frankly quite filthy. I'm pretty sure he's mad at me, although it's hard to tell because he is also sick as hell (shocker). Am I crazy to be super grossed out by this? And pissed off? I'm not a parent so I'm not sure if I'm being overly critical but I just find it all very weird- I've never received a single apology from her- even when we get sick, she continues to blame blame blame. I have no desire to have a confrontation with her what-so-ever, I really don't. But I also have no desire to ever step foot in her house anytime in the future. I hesitate to tell my husband that but I'm completely serious, I'm SO.OVER.IT.ALL.