Destination Wedding - People Assuming they are invited

Re: Destination Wedding - People Assuming they are invited

• Helenahhandbasket member

  

  January 2017 edited January 2017

  "Friend, thank you so much for all of your excitement.  That means a lot to me. We are however having an immediate family only wedding, I'm sure you understand."
  
  Then, stop posting about your wedding plans on social media.  It's fanning the flames.

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• Knottie1446494546 member

  

  January 2017

  Ah see the only reason i posted it was because they kept talking bout it.....so i made a post saying thanks everyone for the excitement, we are having a ceremony with immediate family only. lol! It did not work. 

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• sparklepants41 member

  

  January 2017 edited January 2017

  Knottie1446494546 said:

  Ah see the only reason i posted it was because they kept talking bout it.....so i made a post saying thanks everyone for the excitement, we are having a ceremony with immediate family only. lol! It did not work. 

  
  These types of situations always remind me of when I was in elementary school and my mom taught me that it's not polite/proper etiquette to discuss your birthday party with or in front of those who are not invited. Your wedding and social media are no exception. It was rude if you to post about your wedding knowing full well that people who won't be invited would see. 
  
  The solution? Stop posting about your wedding. Full stop. Easy peasy. 
  
  Edited because part of my original response made no sense. 

  

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• AddieCake member

  

  January 2017

  What's with the weird half delete?

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• sparklepants41 member

  

  January 2017

  AddieCake said:

  What's with the weird half delete?

  I was wondering that too. 

  

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• CMGragain member

  

  January 2017 edited January 2017

  Check out her posts.  She has another thread that asked about having a shower, but only inviting immediate family to her destination wedding.  She wasn't pleased with the answers.  I don't have to tell you what the very good advice other posters gave her was, do I?
  

  

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• CMGragain member

  

  January 2017 edited January 2017

  Knottie1446494546 said:

  Ah see the only reason i posted it was because they kept talking bout it.....so i made a post saying thanks everyone for the excitement, we are having a ceremony with immediate family only. lol! It did not work. 

  According to your post last week, you are not having a destination wedding for immediate family only.  You are inviting aunts, uncles and first cousins, as well as having a bridal party.  Sorry, but that does not fit the definition of "immediate family".
  

  

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• LondonLisa member

  

  January 2017

  I agree with pp. But just to echo everyone: no problem has ever been solved starting with 'So I posted on Facebook...' 

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• Helenahhandbasket member

  

  January 2017

  Knottie1446494546 said:

  Ah see the only reason i posted it was because they kept talking bout it.....so i made a post saying thanks everyone for the excitement, we are having a ceremony with immediate family only. lol! It did not work. 

  Say it directly to the person or persons that are assuming they are invited.

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• photokitty mod

  

  January 2017

  Inviting people to a wedding shower or wedding brunch will only further their confusion and increase their expectation an invitation to the wedding.

  ~xoxo~

  
  

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