Ceremony advice

Re: Ceremony advice

• cowgirl8238 member

  

  January 2017

  Knottie4a44d03a0a36dedd said:

  I have 3 nephews and a niece. My niece is my maid of honor and I am looking for a role for my 3 nephews since the groomsmen and Ushers are already filled. We were trying to keep the wedding party small since we are inviting under 100 people. My nephews are 22, 17 and 14.  
  
  I have a rather long walk from inside the house to the actual ceremony location in a garden. I was thinking that each nephew could assist me getting to where my Father is standing. For example one nephew could walk me from the bridal suite, down the steps to the next nephew, who then escorts me outside to the last nephew who is then responsible for taking me to my Father. 
  
  This probably sounds a bit complicated but I was thinking it was a way for them to each feel a part of things on that day. 
  
  Any thoughts on this?

  Being invited to the wedding is an honor in and of itself.  Roles that would honor someone beyond that would be a reader, Bridesmaid/man or Groomsmaid/man.  Since adding three people in as readers may be overkill (unless they all do a short one!) perhaps you can make them feel special by taking some photos with them, having a dance for "nieces and nephews" if they like dancing, or just mentioning them in a line in the program (if you're having one).  Your plans don't really sound like an honor so much as an afterthought or chore and they seem a bit unnecessarily complicated, in my opinion.
  

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• kaos16 member

  

  January 2017

  Knottie4a44d03a0a36dedd said:

  I have 3 nephews and a niece. My niece is my maid of honor and I am looking for a role for my 3 nephews since the groomsmen and Ushers are already filled. We were trying to keep the wedding party small since we are inviting under 100 people. My nephews are 22, 17 and 14.  
  
  I have a rather long walk from inside the house to the actual ceremony location in a garden. I was thinking that each nephew could assist me getting to where my Father is standing. For example one nephew could walk me from the bridal suite, down the steps to the next nephew, who then escorts me outside to the last nephew who is then responsible for taking me to my Father. 
  
  This probably sounds a bit complicated but I was thinking it was a way for them to each feel a part of things on that day. 
  
  Any thoughts on this?

  
  1. The roles of groomsmen and ushers can't be "filled" because there is no limit on how many your future husband can choose.  If he is close to your nephews he can make them groomsmen.

  2. have them stand on your side as part of your bridal party, bridesmen (or whatever you want to call it)

  3. Ask them to do a reading during the ceremony if any are involved.

  4. Give them a special boutonniere and take a lovely photo with them.

  Having each walk you part of the way to your dad, who will then walk you down the aisle sounds like so much more fuss than need be. 

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• Jen4948 member

  

  January 2017

  I think it's too many handoffs.
  
  I would ask them to be bridesmen or do short readings.

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• STARMOON44 member

  

  January 2017

  I doubt they care. Have them be guests. 

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• geebee908 member

  

  January 2017

  I also doubt they care and won't mind not participating in a bridal relay.
  

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• Knottie4a44d03a0a36dedd member

  

  January 2017

  Hi All, thank you very much for all of your help on this. 

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  February 2017

  Get them easy a flower so they stand out as VIP guests

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