Thank You Letter/Card Help

randomslove · January 2017

My H and I got married last month and I'm working on thank you cards now. However, I've researched and seen a bunch of different information.

Any gifts we received before we were married, I made sure to send out a card as soon as I could, since I knew that. But I've seen conflicting info in different areas.

One etiquette site I read said you're supposed to send a thank you to everyone who attended the wedding, but I've also seen that you ONLY send for gifts/money/cards. I have also seen it said you send an individual thank-you for each gift, even if they came from the same person, at the same time, that it required a separate card for each.

I've written about half the people who gave something to us so far, but I want to make sure I get the etiquette right before I send them out. Any help is appreciated.

ETF: Typos/ wrong-word

southernbelle0915 · January 2017

You only need to send TY notes for gifts. You already thanked people for coming with the reception and receiving line or table visits. That is sufficient for attendance.

The TY note is just for the gift.

ETA to answer your other question (sorry I missed it), if people go in on a gift together, each social unit gets their own TY note. Example: Uncle Joe and Aunt Sally went in with Uncle Lou and Aunt Betty on some sheets. Cousin Jenny who is an adult but lives with her mom and dad (Uncle Lou and Aunt Betty) also signed the card - so presumably contributed. You need to send 3 TY notes - one addressed to Uncle Joe and Aunt Sally, one addressed to Uncle Lou and Aunt Betty, and one addressed to Cousin Jenny (even though the latter two notes are going to the same house). If Cousin Jenny is a minor and just signed the card with her parents, you can just send one note to all 3 of them. Does that make sense?

geebee908 · January 2017

I think one note per gift-giver is fine. I can't imagine giving a gift of several items and expecting a separate note for each item; you should be able to cover them all in one note.

randomslove · January 2017

Thank you both. I feel a bit more confident in sending out thank-yous to people now.

[Deleted User] · February 2017

Personal call I think. Obviously everyone who gave a gift gets a thank you. I did have a few guests who didn't give anything, but they were either people who had travel expenses for coming & also our Bridal Party. I still sent thank you cards to them because they still spent money to be a part of our special day and I wanted to acknowledge that we appreciated them being there.

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