Okay so here's the deal. We don't know whether to have a wedding or just to forget the whole show and elope somewhere beautiful, just the two of us.
I know the first thing that comes to mind is what about everyone who will be left behind? My parents do not care, they eloped and think it's romantic. My finance's parents don't care, actually he does not even know if they could travel to be here for a wedding.
We put together a guest list initially and it was only 30-40 people...we still looked at venues which were disappointing, especially since the wedding would be so small...it just did not feel right. I DID fall in love with a ballgown when I went dress shopping and interestingly enough it all kind of came together in my head: have the wedding at my father's very beautiful and elegant estate. It's huge and perfect, the kind of place people pay to rent for their weddings. And we could have really good food for less people, good music, in my head- in theory - it sounded great and I would be wearing that Lazaro ballgown.
BTW did anyone else choose the most unexpected gown? I don't see any part of myself the gown, if that makes sense, but I loved the way I felt when I was wearing it. Anyway, when I told my father we were thinking about eloping he was pleased and offered to send us to Cannes, France where we could continue our honeymoon around France. I love it there, I've been there, France is one of my favorite places in the world but they don't have the same marriage customs that we do. Having a "spiritual ceremony" for our elopement is uncustomary in France, they get married in something like city hall with several other couples, and it is a very bureaucratic process...usually you then go to your reception and celebrate like any other couple but even church marriages are not legal in France. And we can't get legally married in France because you must obtain residency for 40 days prior or have a parent living in France. We have neither so the idea of eloping in France is romantic but also a little silly considering it is so out of context within their culture. We wanted to elope in Byron Bay, Australia but for some reason dad said no way and it bummed me out. And yes I'm in my 30s and still obey my dad, especially when he's paying.
Thanks for listening