So for reasons I won't go into much, my mom isn't involved in my wedding. I asked the mother of one of my bridesmaids to help. And it has kind of turned into a disaster in the last few weeks. It went from her just helping decorate the day before, and doing a few sewing projects, to her trying to take over all the bridesmaid duties. Including the shower, which initially she said she did not want to help with, that it was my sisters (MOH) duty to do that. It has also degenerated into her badgering me about some of the the things we are doing- because a seating chart poster display is cheaper than place cards we are doing that, well she won't let it go. She thinks we need individual cards. I have tried to get her to calm down, and realize that more people want to help, and we can spread things out, but it is to no avail. She has basically said to me I can either have her help and no one else's (not even the MOH) or I can have everyone else's help and not hers. This is complicated by the fact that I am very close to her daughter. I gave this woman a bunch of things that will be used in the wedding for decorations, for her to morph (previously mentioned sewing projects). I am concerned that if I tell her I don't want her help or that this is a team effort and to suck it up, that $200 in fabric I gave her will disappear, or it will be hard to get back. I'm also worried about how it will affect my friendship with her daughter and with my sister. I'm also concerned about how decorating the hall will go, I would like my thoughts and ideas to be expressed, but I fear I will be railroaded by her. Thoughts?