Hi ladies! I think this is my first post on this account - I was a reg YEARS ago on this board before everything changed on here, and of course I thought of you all first with this scenario.
Here we go - H and I got married in a small ceremony with our families in January. We're throwing a party this summer (this is NOT a PPD situation.. we formally announced that we have already gotten married, and we're just throwing a party to celebrate). H and I are paying for the entire thing ourselves.
I was hoping for zero drama - but alas, here we are. H's mom is pretty upset with us because some of our friends are pitching in to help with the party (they volunteered), and she doesn't like said friends very much. She's mad that we haven't asked her for help, despite the fact that we've been clear that we are taking care of everything ourselves. She and H got in to a yelling match on the phone the other day about it.
So anyway, yesterday she texted me and offered $150 to use to buy a cake. The problem is, I've already solved for the cake. First, I don't want cake: I'd rather have cupcakes, it's easier. And one of the friends I mentioned above has already offered to make them for us.
If we were to buy them from the bakery H's mom wants us to use, it would cost more than $150 anyway.
My first instinct is to say "thanks, but no thanks" to H's mom. I asked for his opinion, and he doesn't seem to care. But then again, I get that her only son just got married and she wants to help. I'd rather not piss her off any more than she already is.
Soo.. looking for your input. What's the best way to approach this? Any suggestions?