Some basic info on the wedding. This Saturday May 20th. We are keeping it small. Immediate family only. My fiance and I are paying for everything-no help from either family.
The fiance's family is spread out throughout the state, and the venue we are having the wedding/reception at is about the same distance for his mom and his dad (they are divorced). They are both coming about 4 hours away and are staying for a few days. For my family, it is about 1.5 hours away. My parents RSVP'd several months ago saying they were coming. I offered to let them use my car since their vehicle has been having some issues lately. I was even going to pay for gas. No issues there so far.
Fast forward to tonight. My mom informs me that my dad will be staying for the ceremony to "do his duty" of giving me away, and then he is leaving before the reception. Not only is he leaving early, he is taking their vehicle back by himself, leaving my mom, my brother, and his girlfriend to have to fend for themselves for a ride back home.
I have been a stressed out wreck lately because of wedding planning stuff, and hearing this I started bawling. I am very, very upset. I am grateful that my dad is coming at all, don't get me wrong. But I am still very saddened about his decision to leave early. They already drove up there for the ceremony, why not stay for the food? And to drive off leaving your wife, one of your sons, and his girlfriend without a ride home?
My mom thinks I am over reacting and that I should be grateful he is even going at all (which honestly the fact that he is going still surprises me). I however do not feel like I am over reacting. It feels like he is only showing up to "do his duty" as he calls it. Not out of love and wanting to share this important moment with his oldest daughter.
Has anyone else had something like this happen at their wedding? How did you deal with it? Were you emotional at your wedding because of it? Does it sound like I am over reacting by being upset?