Dear Prudence,
Our son passed away recently from cancer at 32. We were estranged from him for the last four years of his life because of his “evil” wife, who would not allow him to have any contact with us. She has also kept our granddaughters out of our lives. We’ve never seen them. My sister-in-law insists on keeping in touch with her even though we have told her over and over how much this hurts us as that woman destroyed our family. She feels she owes it to our son. We feel she should worry more about her “living” brother and his feelings. My husband can’t have a relationship with her as long as she continues to have contact with this girl who completely destroyed our world and denied us the last four years of our son’s life.