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Wedding Etiquette Forum
OwningAHome1981
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Hotel Block
How can I word the hotel card properly without making people
think we’re paying? Situation: want wedding next summer in CA. We live in NY.
Family is from NY, MI & CA so the NY & MI people probably will need hotels. I
am trying to find a hotel near the place we’re thinking of getting married @. I
want to get a block there. I was telling my fiancé this and he said if we get a
hotel block his dad's family will think that means we are paying. WE ARE NOT
PAYING. How can I word this card so they are 100% sure we’re not paying? I also
thought about just not sending those people the card but my fiancé says they would
be pissed if there was discounted rate and they weren’t told about it. (Addendum:
they are not from America. They live here now but they are not from here. I do
not know if this is a cultural thing or what but I know this is not the first
wedding they’re attending in America).
Re: Hotel Block
I don't think this is your issue. They will find out upon trying to book that they need to pay. Just print the information card that says:
Hotels:
We have negotiated discounts at the following hotels. Please make sure to mention the Smith-Jones wedding to receive the special rates
Marriott £100/ night
Address
Phone number for bookings
Bay Inn £85/ night
Address
Phone number for bookings
Also, your fi can let his father know that hotels are not paid for and he can spread the word with his extended family.
First, don't find the hotel until you actually book your reception. The location could change and that could be the difference of finding a different hotel.
Other than that, do what @LondonLisa advised. You can send that information once you send STDs but please don't send STDs to your invited guests until you have a ceremony date and a reception location actually booked.
Oh yeah. We're going to start booking prob next month but we know the general area we want to be in so we're looking for hotels around there. Nothing is booked yet just being proactive. But we think we know what venue we want.
My fiancé doesn't seem to think so... so I'm unsure here. He thinks that if we list the prices it just says to them it's an FYI & that that means call us to book it @ that price, not them. Having the prices, in his eyes, doesn't say enough to let them know it's on them. So what else can I add another than a point blank "PAY FOR OWN YOUR DAMN HOTEL" lol
So what is your FI's solution then? If he's going to keep complaining about something than he needs to provide a solution.
Well I think he needs to be blunt with them and tell them "look, we're not paying for it that's on you" but he doesn't want to and I don't want to be the one to tell them. I don't even know half the people.
Then you need to word the card in a way that says it's on them.
What does your FI propose as a solution here? Just hope someone gets it? make you the bad guy??
Yes I need to re-word the card but what's the best way?
Good ideas. Maybe I can just say like "Please Call The Hotel Directly To Book"?
No one would think you're paying for the hotel if you do that.
That's good, and also pretty common, I've seen it on a number of inserts.
He's just wrong and clueless about this like everything else! If they call you to book you just say no. Problem solved.
Seriously. There seems to be a logic problem with this dude.
If I were you, OP, I would just be like "ok honey, I have (insert wedding thing here) covered. Now how is that co-worker of yours?"