Here we go-stressing bride:
Venue-CANCELLED Out and was sold so we are looking for a place to have an out door wedding in September of this year. Fiance set the date so now to find a venue for it. Looking at new locations now so this means nerves are going overtime and calling vendors and emailing others to get things together. Least we got great vendors-SAVING GRACE for any bride.
Re: Venue Closed so RE Doing everything
Why would you set the date before you get your venue? What else have you booked? Your date is not your date until you have a venue.
If you are having a wedding--any wedding, you need to have a contingency plan for inclement weather. Depending on where you are the wedding could be beautiful, or it could be snowing. I live in Southern California and an outdoor September wedding could be beautiful and 78 degrees with a breeze, or (more likely), near the 100s.
And are you saying you picked a date without a venue? That is so backwards. Pick a venue, book it, and then that is your date.
If you need help thinking of venues, try posting on your local board for advice.
So I think OP had everything set? (correct me if I'm wrong here) - vendors, venue, everything, but her venue closed/cancelled so now she has her vendors reserved for a specific date, but is trying to find a venue that is available on that same date so she doesn't have to switch everything around.
OP I agree with PPs - you need to make sure you have a contingency plan for inclement weather or temps that are too hot/cold to be outdoors. Your guests' comfort should be the priority over your vision for an outdoor wedding.
Are you the poster whose "wedding is in 5 weeks-July 22? Are you the poster who was going to cancel and reschedule for the sake of an ill relative? Are you the poster who just confirmed with all family and friends on June 17th that the wedding will go on as scheduled?
I'm very confused.
Her current date was set for 5 weeks from now. Invitations have gone out.
@knottieafc578b999766e15, I would think your first order of business would be to notify guests that the wedding has been postponed. I would hope that the second order of business would be to check with VIP's regarding any and all new date considerations. Your date, currently, has been switched from July to September. I have no idea where you live, but I am guessing there would be some significant weather differences. Please make sure that you have an indoor contingency plan with this next selection.
H and I set a date before we booked our venue. I don't really see what the problem is with that.
Yes, DD set a date before she had the reception venue. The church availablity determined the date. We had to work and find a reception venue that was available on that date
It's not a problem for everyone, but some people get so attached to a particular date that they end up inventing problems for themselves. The only venue that was available on THAT DATE is too small for the people their parents are adding on, but they have to add the parent's people because they needed monetary help to afford the ridiculously priced venue. Or they're trying to fit 14 months worth of planning into two months because this year THAT DATE falls on a Saturday, but next year it falls on a Monday. Or they're going to put out all their friends and VIPs who have to travel and miss 2-3 days of work because THAT DATE is on a Thursday and they just HAVE to get married on THAT DATE.
So, not an outright problem, but certainly can be one.
For most people, but certainly not all, it goes
1) budget, because money doesn't grow on trees,
2) guest list, because who care's if you have a perfect event if the right people aren't there to witness and celebrate,
3) venue, because there are a limited number of venues that will work with your budget, guest list, and vision, and
4) date, because once you nail down the other 3 there's likely at least a couple dates available within your season of choice if you're planning with advance notice.
Of course, if you're having a short engagement I would make "general date" more important than the venue, because you'll need to make sure they have some openings in a couple months (or weeks), and then you can nail down the exact date once you find out what those openings are.
These suggestions may ring true if you are having a secular ceremony in the same venue as the reception. In the case of our parish, absolutely nothing venue related is locked in until a date has been secured with the parish. I am guessing that the same holds true for many other religious ceremonies. The ceremony dictates everything else, in my opinion. Even with secular ceremonies not being held at the reception venue, the time and place of the ceremony dictates the location and start time of the reception.
I would have ceremony location be agenda item #3.
When I say venue I mean the physical space where the event will take place. Some people have 2 venues: one for the ceremony, one for the reception. If getting married in your church is the most important thing for you, that's essentially picking a venue you love and accepting you may not get the date you want or have enough space for the guest list you want. I don't see how this is any different from what I wrote.
I think it's important to differentiate not for you necessarily but for brides who may not realize that if the religious ceremony must be in a house of worship then that needs to be booked first.
Additionally, I would never consider a house of worship a "venue".
What you wrote specifies one venue. That can and will almost certainly be misconstrued as the reception venue. Although it can happen, a house of worship rarely impacts significantly on the budget, guest list, or vision.
We can't do the ceremony over the holidays and I may not be back til October and we were hoping for outdoors...but somehow we are going to make it work and if we have to use it-Army know how will be used by these 2 veterans!
Sounds like you have some re-scheduling to do. If invites have gone out, contact your guest list ASAP to notify that the wedding will not take place as planned.
I'm confused--did you want to have your wedding at a church, but they said you couldn't have service dogs there? Legally, they can't bar a service dog as long as it is well-behaved. I can understand being nervous about the behavior of your brand-new service dog, but if it's coming from a program (sounds like what you're doing), it shouldn't be much of an issue as it will have extensive training prior to meeting you.
Congratulations on getting your own service dog! It sounds like you and FI have some big conversations coming up about how to proceed with the wedding now, and what's most important to both of you. Good luck.
(affirmation of vows). People attend weddings to see a couple actually
get married, not to see them parade around and pretend.
Service dogs are not a problem in churches. If you want a church wedding, there is no reason not to have one.