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• bridezillatobe2009 member

  

  February 2012

  that's a shiity way to find out about you brothers engagement and wedding plans and it sucks that she's a biitch. Don't worry about the things you can't change (ie-her) and enjoy your engagement, I'm sure the people around you see her for what she is.
  
  

  

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• mamameech

  

  February 2012

  Eeek not a good way to find out, and not a great person to have as a FSIL

  Does your brother see how she treats other? Do you think this is something he really wants? How does the rest of the family feel? Not that it really matters in the end because he is a big boy and he can make his own decision, that you unfortunately have to live with. Like bridezilla said, don't let this rain on your parade! 

  

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• SCogs18 member

  

  February 2012

  I am so so so sorry you found out about your brother's engagement on facebook.  I think it's important for all couples to call/e-mail all important persons before announcing their engagement on facebook for this very reason, even if it means not posting it for a few days (the horror!--because obviously you aren't really engaged until you are engaged on facebook).
  
  How long have the two of them been dating?  Perhaps now that you are both getting married you can bond over planning and such?  I wouldn't particurally want to bond with a woman like that, but it appears that you are going to be stuck with her.  Could you talk to your mother about your concerns?  I don't want to suggest you create family drama, but it might be good to talk about it.
  
  Also, I doubt they will get married in September.  It's already February, and while it is possible to plan a wedding in 7 months, it would be pretty stressful, plus a lot of the vendors she may want could already be booked.

  

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• morenachica110 member

  

  February 2012

  Thank guys. He doesn't see it.. or maybe he does. He feels like he can't do much better and is lucky just to have anyone because about 5 years ago we found out he was epileptic. He couldn't go out and drink and party anymore and couldn't drive for about 2 years or so. All of his friends abandoned him. It was shiity. Instead of seeing how shiity they were, he felt like he was a loser and was grateful for just anyone who came along. =(

  
  

  He seems to be pretty happy and there doesn't seem to be actual abuse so I would never tell him that I can't stand the thought of his now FI. *shudder* And, no, I can't talk to my mom about it because she actually hates her. I dislike her a lot and my mom hates her. They broke up over something stupid for about a week and his now FI *shudder* called my mom and told her that my brother had gotten drunk many times and hit her constantly. Not true. Seriously. If you had ever met my brother, you would know. My mom may be biased and not see, but I'm telling you that my brother could never hit a woman.

  
  

  *sigh* I guess I'll just step back and concentrate on my own whirlwind over here. lol! Oh, and I mentioned the Facebook thing and apparently he proposed around 8pm and had to go to bed at 9pm because of work in the morning so he told her not to tell anyone until they could tell family. Well, she uploaded a ring picture as they were driving home from the restaurant. Awesome.

  
  

  Yaaay for new family. hahaha! I'm so glad you guys are supportive!!! I'm not jealous. I just think he could do a whooooooole lot better. But, oh well.

  
  
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• jessa1228 member

  

  February 2012 edited February 2012

  I agree with bridezilla. Sorry :-/

  

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• adktd2boots member

  

  February 2012

  FI has a horrid SIL.  She hates me for no reason at all.  I'm feeling the pain, so if you ever just want to vent, send me a PM

  
  
  Just because you saw it on Four Weddings, doesn't mean it's a good idea.

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• caterpillar85

  

  February 2012 edited February 2012

  Facebook should be banned from dumb people. (had an ex break up with me over FB, he changed his relationship status to single and sent me a message saying it was over and if I wanted to call him crying to wait until he got some sleep. Bunch of my friends knew before me and kept calling and apologizing... say what?!! found out he cheated and felt bad so was too chicken to tell me to my face)
  
  If this broad decides to plan around your date, hopefully your bro will stand up for you because it's obvious that would upset anyone. And your family having two weddings within a month can be super stressful. Hopefully she isn't that heartless.

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• mcmeghan311 member

  

  February 2012

  It may be petty or whatever, but I totally understand and sympathise with you.  My FSIL got engaged less than a month after us and set her date about 6 weeks after ours.  I immediately felt overshadowed and feared that our wedding would be put on the back burner for hers by FI's parents.  So far, none of that has happened.  I was also nervous because she's in my bridal party, so I didn't know if she'd still want to be in it since she has her own wedding to plan for now, but she wants to be.  I really like my FSIL though and her fiance is a great guy.  Idk what I would do if my brother got engaged to a b!tch...  He was with a nasty b!tch of a girl for almost 3 years and I swear I almost threw a party when they broke up.  If you ever need to have a "my wedding should be the only wedding" vent, don't worry, I'll listen :0)

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• morenachica110 member

  

  February 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_rant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:ec3dc18a-3a88-400c-af1f-bba7bbcaa648Post:41995982-071c-4060-b771-62c7abe1bdb3">Re: -.- (rant)</a>:
  [QUOTE]Facebook should be banned from dumb people. (had an ex break up with me over FB, he changed his relationship status to single and sent me a message saying it was over and if I wanted to call him crying to wait until he got some sleep. Bunch of my friends knew before me and kept calling and apologizing... say what?!! found out he cheated and felt bad so was too chicken to tell me to my face) If this broad decides to plan around your date, hopefully your bro will stand up for you because it's obvious that would upset anyone. And your family having two weddings within a month can be super stressful. Hopefully she isn't that heartless.
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  <div>Wow. I mean, wow. No, my brother won't stand up for anything against her so right now all I can do is just hope that she has some common sense and manners and plans it for next spring. So far I have three old coworkers, one current coworker (ish), and a step brother getting married this year. Possibly my brother now, too. Geez, I thought it was kind of "our year". lol!</div><div>
  </div><div>And thanks mcmegan. I'll definitely whine to you when it starts to grate on my nerves! hahaha</div>

  
  
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• CowgirlK39 member

  

  February 2012

  I know how you feel. I posted about it a ways back too. My FSIL isn't a terrible biiitch she is just snooty. She and my brother have so much money, and act like everything they do is perfect. My Fi and I got engaged first, and shortly after that my brother told me that if he decides to propose to his gf they would want a fall 2012 wedding so don't get married at that time. Well, we were engaged first, so we picked what we wanted. After he proposed to her, he asked me to change our date!!!! The worst part is, some of the queens on these forums told me I should do what he wants! I don't think so!
  
  All you can do is not give her any fuel. Don't intentionally piss her off because you don't like her. Just smile and nod and do what you can just to suck it up. Sorry to hear bout the suckiness.

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