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I was with the author for most of her response. But then she started with the "it's your job, do your job" nonsense. I wouldn't tolerate a comment like, "Shut up and do your job," from my REAL job. The one I actually get paid money to do.
Then I read in the author's bio that she went on 71 internet dates...and wrote about them. 71 internet dates? Really? Wow. She must be even worse in person than her writing makes her sound, lol.
I went on a lot of internet dates myself in my single days. How many? I couldn't tell you, because I didn't tally them like a weirdo. Over an entire year, 71 internet dates would be going on a date with a totally new person every 5 days. Maybe her time period was longer (or shorter, shudder). That is a relentless amount of smiling and "tell me about yourself" for a normal person to tolerate.
So it sounds like the article was written by a woman who is still bitter that her now-husband didn't help with planning their wedding by her stereotypical generalizations. There are some husbands who WANT to be a part of the wedding planning and are excited about it. And of course there are some men who don't want to be a part of every little detail. There are some brides who dream of every little detail and had their wedding planned since they were little, and there are some brides who just aren't into it. And do women even wear pantyhose/nylons anymore... especially assuming these women are younger? I don't mean tights (thicker, opaque) like women wear in the fall with a skirt and boots. I do see women wear thin, sheer, black nylons with black cocktail dresses, but that's the only time. I don't remember any bridal party I have ever been to wearing pantyhose.
I needed a margarita after just reading her response.
I'm one of these brides. It drives our moms bonkers. We have a "Things We Give a Fuck About" list and a "Things We Don't Give A Fuck About" list. Honestly, FI cares more about certain things than I do. He picked our colors, for instance. But yes, I have had to get pantyhose maybe eight years ago and we were wearing the WORST shoes: strappy stilletos with an open toe. But the brides grandmother insisted on pantyhose, which thankfully the brides mother paid for, but that meant having to tell her "Oh, I'm fat. Get me the Queen size." smh. The brides's sister and I also had to cover our tattoos because we can't scandalize grandma. ::eyeroll:: At that time, yes, I did "shut up and do my job" because I was young and didn't know any better.
On the secondary topic of pantyhose... On very rare occasions I still wear them, and I'm 34. I also wear slips under all my dresses. One of my 60 year old coworkers called me the oldest young person she knows, haha. The last time I wore hose was my wedding day, because well honestly, sweaty feet in leather shoes isn't comfortable. The hose makes the shoes feel better. And slips? I'd rather risk my skirt hiking up and showing a slip than my actual underwear. And, the slip prevents skirt wedgies. #practical. Should a bride dictate undergarments including hose? Heck no. One of my BMs did wear hose, the others didn't. For her, she doesn't like the veins on her legs, so, her choice.
I am giving no side-eye to your practicality, lol. However it does remind me.
When my sister was getting married, my grandma insisted I wear a slip under my skirt. It was fairly long, almost ankle length, and was not the least bit see through. However, she was clutching her pearls I wasn't planning to wear a slip under my skirt for a nice event, lol. So I did. It was a small thing to do to make grandma happy, but I did inwardly chuckle about it.
I still wear pantyhose sometimes. But it is fairly rare, nowadays. Usually just if my H and I are going out somewhere fancy and I have a cocktail or nice dress on. I also wear them on interviews, if my suit has a skirt. Knee highs if my suit has pants. I didn't wear pantyhose for my wedding, but my dress was long and my shoes were dressy, open toed sandals.