Day of coordinator
I have heard many times to get a day of coordinator for your wedding since you will have to deal with so many other things its nice to have someone who is dealing with everything else.
At my friends wedding her fiancé's/husband's aunt did this and she was AMAZING!!(she's the wife of a CEO so she's used to helping coordinate fancy events) We were talking/relaxing at her house between the ceremony and reception and she begged me to let her come to the church to see me in my dress because she loves seeing brides in their gowns. I told her she can come to the wedding. She's awesome! The life of the party yet keeps the day flowing and organized!
I would like the day of coordinator to be someone I know not just someone we hired for the day. (but I would consider paying her) but everyone I trust enough has another "job" (MOB,MOG,MOH,etc) I want these "important" people to be able to enjoy the wedding and not have to coordinate events/vendors/etc.
Do you think I should ask my friends aunt?
I'm going to offer to pay her as a thank you if nothing else but have no idea what amount. I'd also be willing to give her a nice gift instead (I feel like she will turn down money.) so how much should I spend?
Thanks!
Re: Day of coordinator
What happens if you asks her to do it, she says yes, and then a month before the wedding she finds out that she needs to be at another event that day? It's not like she's depending on this for her livelihood.
ETA: if you don't hire a DOC, you cannot ask wedding guests to perform this service. This is not a "duty" of MOH or MOB or any other friend or family member.
When I saw her on the wedding day I said "I need someone to do this for my wedding day." which prompted the "oh yeah you got engaged since I lost saw you. When the wedding?" (the usual questions) Which is when she said she wanted to see me in my dress...etc. and I brought it up to her then and she seemed happy to but we were also in the early stages of planning. The rest of the night she kept saying how much work it was but "they're done until their daughter" and she only does this for friends and family. She also did a lot more at my friends wedding than I would need. The reception was originally going to be at her house but it was changed due to rain threat and the wedding lunch/break/chill time was also at her house. So it wouldn't be as much work for my wedding.
I got the impression she's never been paid for this before and would probably refuse payment which is why I'm thinking a nice gift.
OP, please tell me you aren't planning to have a gap between your ceremony and reception like your friend did
Lurkers: if you have enough "downtime" between ceremony and reception to go to someone's house to hang out and relax you have a gap and you're being rude to your guests. The ceremony should flow right into the reception.
I carefully asked last night and she said "yes of course"!! I offered to pay her but she refused payment.
I'd still like to give her a thank you gift but don't know what. She's loves wine (like has 3 wine coolers in her house!) But to me a bottle of wine doesn't seem like enough.
Any suggestions?