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MissEastCoast
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Bridesmaid getting hair done at different salon
Hi everyone!
For the day of my wedding, I asked all my bridesmaids if they wanted to get their hair and makeup done with me. I told them it wasn't required at all and completely up to them. Three bridesmaids said yes. One told me she was doing her own hair, and I was fine with that.
But I've recently found out that the one who said she was doing her own hair is going to a salon that's an hour and a half away. I looked up the prices of that salon and it's slightly more than the one I'm getting my hair done at.
I had no problem with her not coming to my salon and doing her own hair, but it just hurt me a little that she's going to a different salon and won't be getting ready with us. And I'm concerned that she won't be at our venue on time either (we need to be there at noon). She assures me she will be there on time, but an almost two hour drive in the morning isn't idea.
If she's getting her hair professionally done, wouldn't a bridesmaid want to get it done with the bride? And should I say something?
If anyone has any thoughts, I'd love to hear them!
For the day of my wedding, I asked all my bridesmaids if they wanted to get their hair and makeup done with me. I told them it wasn't required at all and completely up to them. Three bridesmaids said yes. One told me she was doing her own hair, and I was fine with that.
But I've recently found out that the one who said she was doing her own hair is going to a salon that's an hour and a half away. I looked up the prices of that salon and it's slightly more than the one I'm getting my hair done at.
I had no problem with her not coming to my salon and doing her own hair, but it just hurt me a little that she's going to a different salon and won't be getting ready with us. And I'm concerned that she won't be at our venue on time either (we need to be there at noon). She assures me she will be there on time, but an almost two hour drive in the morning isn't idea.
If she's getting her hair professionally done, wouldn't a bridesmaid want to get it done with the bride? And should I say something?
If anyone has any thoughts, I'd love to hear them!
Re: Bridesmaid getting hair done at different salon
File this in the category of "things not to worry about anymore."
ETA - why do you need to be at the venue at noon? If she shows up at 1:30 and your ceremony is at 2, is it still possible for her to do her bridesmaid's only job of walking down the aisle?
I don't think you should feel hurt by this, though I can understand disappointment. There are lots of reasons she may not be going to your salon with you all. Some people are extremely particular about their hair stylist.
Or, like @flantastic commented, maybe she wants to start her morning off more quietly because the rest of the day is going to be a lot of excitement and fun...but with that comes hectic and non-stop busy.
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This is probably her go to stylist. As a PP said, some people are VERY particular about who touches their hair. Let this go, friend feels she will be a the venue on time, so why doubt her?
FWIW, My brother was marrying an hour and half away from where I (and the rest of my family) lived. I went up on Friday for the RD and then drove home 2 hours (because I took the wrong route!) and got there around midnight. I then woke up at 5:30 the next morning to be at my stylist's house at 6. My sister used my stylist too and arrived around 6:30. We both made it up to the wedding on time and even a little early. We were given the option to have hair & MU done with the bride, but she lived an hour north of where the RD was, so why drive north for an hour and sleep in a hotel or pull out couch, when I could drive that extra 30 minutes and sleep in my own bed with my now H next to me.
"Friend, I know I told you you didn't have to get your hair done where I'm getting my hair done, but I'm hurt that you're getting your hair done where I'm not getting my hair done. And it's far away and it's more expensive than where I'm getting my hair done."
If a bride came to me with something like this, given the options SHE put in place (where this was fine), I'd be like:
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OP, I have a question: when you gave the option of doing their own hair, did you envision the bridesmaid doing her hair early and still hanging out with you at the salon while you and everyone else had theirs done? Chances are, even if she wasn't going to the other salon she still wouldn't be hanging out with you in the mornin.
My daughter asked me if I wanted to get my hair done with her and the wedding party. I said no because
1. I love my hairstylist. She understands me and my hair. When she does my hair, I don't have to fix it when I get home. My hairdresser is perfect for me.
2. Getting my hair styled with the wedding party would have required I get up at 5 a.m. and be social. I'm not a morning person. My daughter understands this. She was probably happy that I opted out. My daughter is perfect for me.
You want happy bridesmaids on your wedding day- let this one go!
If I'm paying money for a service, I want to enjoy it and for it to be relaxing.
No, you shouldn't say anything. She's a grown ass woman- she'll be there if she says she'll be there on time.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
The next time I was a bridesmaid, I opted to do my hair separately since there were 6 bridesmaids and I wanted to be a bit more relaxed. The bride is still happily married and still loves me.
They were driving everyone in the salon nuts- the other stylists and the other customers; there was a ton of drama and anxiety over pretty much nothing, and they weren't really quiet about it.
It took all of my personal willpower not to tell the bride to just chill the fuck out and stop micromanaging everyone ><
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
As long as that isn't an arbitrary time frame (if pictures are starting then before an afternoon ceremony, etc), and she assures you she can get there on time, I wouldn't sweat it. As some PPs have said, it can be stressful for some people to get ready with a big crowd, and maybe she would appreciate the moments of quiet before a busy day.