Oh man! He keeps changing his mind

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• OjitosVerdes member

  

  February 2013 edited February 2013

  My vote is defintiely Italy - that's personal preference though, not that one is inherently better than the other.  I guess it depends on what kind of honeymoon you want (relaxing on the beach versus exploring). 

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• hoffse member

  

  February 2013

  I can't believe I'm going to say this, but for your honeymoon I would do Hawaii.  I am obsessed with Italy - it is incredible - but it's also not worth going unless you are going to hardcore sightsee in my opinion.  I think a place like that is perfect for an anniversary trip, but you are likely to want to just sit on a beach and decompress for the first couple days of your honeymoon.  Every single person I know who has done Europe regretted it because they slept through the first couple of days between exhaustion and jetlag.  Now if you are having a really low key wedding, then I would do Italy in a heartbeat because it's an incredible place.  But if your wedding is anything like mine (320 guests, out of town for both of us, etc.) then you are probably going to want something more relaxing when it's all said and done, and you may not fully appreciate it until your wedding date is closing in.

  
  

  And FWIW, I was dead set on Spain when we first started planning.  And the closer we got the more I wanted to just chill on a beach, so we are going to Jamaica.  It's inexpensive, close, and I can sort of feel my blood pressure drop when I think about it.  That to me is the sign that you've found the right place.  It's not the fanciest vacation we will ever go on, but it's right for us at this time in our lives.  We are saving for a house, I started a new (intense) job, and FI will have just finished his law school exams 3 weeks after our wedding is over.  Jamaica is going to be a week to unwind and recharge. 

  

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• HobokensFury member

  

  February 2013

  I've been to both and would choose Hawaii for a HM destination.  It has tropical beaches, warm weather and plenty of time to relax and enjoy being a newlywed.  In Italy you're always on the run trying to see all of the sights.

   
   

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• MrsGandthebeag member

  

  February 2013

  Personally I've never had a desire to go to Hawaii.  I just feel like it's a long flight to sit on a beach where I could go somewhere a lot closer for a lot cheaper.  But, like pp said, it really depends on whether you want to go go go or sit on a beach.  Italy is amazing, but it's not going to be relaxing.  

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• dazyabbey

  

  February 2013

  I am going to go the oposite of all the other ladies.
  I would go to Italy if I were you.
  
  Unlike what the other ladies said we actually did go on a European honeymoon and it was amazing and there were never any regrets. We got into London around 8am and I took a nap for about 2 hours or something and then we were perfect and had no troubles. We have been on relaxing trips before and they are fun and great but we only have one honeymoon. And everyone goes to Hawaii, Jamaica or Mexico. I think if you have the opportunity and the vacation time then go for it! You only have one honeymoon though so make sure you don't waste the time.
  
  For us though, we didn't ever have a super stressful wedding. We aren't the type of people that let the little things get to us or got crazy. I think a part of that though was that we were engaged for almost 2 years. We also were more invested in our honeymoon then we were in our wedding as bad as that sounds. We had an amazing time and I honestly think it was the trip of a life time and I wouldn't have traded it for the world. I know a lot of people that go to Mexico or somewhere in the Caribbean and they post pictures of the beach and the resort, but in Europe you can take pictures of a 400 year old Chapel or you can walk on the same stones that Michelangelo or Leonardo da Vinci did. I also know people that have gone to Europe and Asia and I have never ever heard one person speak about regret on their trip. They always had the most amazing time and wouldn't have traded their amazing journey for a relaxing beach vacation.
  
  I think in reality though, it just depends on what you two want to do and what your perfect idea of a vacation or honeymoon is.

  
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• hoffse member

  

  February 2013

  I honestly don't get why the honeymoon is the vacation of the lifetime though - for most people it falls during a year where things are really tight financially... you are paying for a wedding, afterall.  And most couples become wealthier as they become older and their earning potential goes up.  I feel like the vacation of the lifetime model is what compels couples to overspend and is the reason honeymoon registries have popped up with such alarming frequency.

  
  

  Not knocking London - I would love to go there - but OP needs to think about what it is she wants out her honeymoon, not trying to one up everybody else by going some place that's more expensive or "unique" than everybody else.  I get that mentality because I had it myself for a good long while, until FI pointed out that there must be a really good reason that the vast majority of US couples honeymoon in the caribbean or Mexico at an AI.

  
  

  FI and I are going to an AI.  We have never been to one and may never go to one again after this, but at 2 months out there is a lot to be said for a vacation that doesn't require any additional planning, money, or logistical coordination than the bare minimum we have put into it.  We also had a long engagement, but with more than 300 guests coming from around the world we have spent our time focused on the wedding itself.

  
  

  OP, whatever you choose will be lovely - but really think about what it is you want out of a honeymoon.  I am the girl with an art history degree; FI is the guy who writes classical music; and we both decided we wouldn't want to go to Europe for this vacation.  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• fperez7542

  

  February 2013

  Thank you ladies for your opinions.  We are booking Hawaii this week! :-) Just one more thing to look forward too :-)

  

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