I need some advice on my bachelorette party invites because my FMIL is driving me nuts...after all I thought this was kinda my party for the people that are closest to me.
Anyways, I have chosen to do a more relaxed party (wine tasting and a cabin rental on the lakeshore of Michigan)--nothing over the top and I have begged my bridal party (my two sisters) to spare me of the penis decor and overload.
Having established this laid back weekend I have chosen to also invite a few of my close friends, one of my cousins, one of my aunts, my mother, my future mother in law, a few of my finances cousins who I am close with as well as one of my fiancés aunts--but not all of his aunts. NOTE: I did not invite all of MY aunts here!
We are two weeks away from the RSVP for the party and my FMIL called me to say "don't mean to be a pain but I didn't know who you invited to this...and you should really invite fiancés aunt number 2, and fiancés cousin number 2---but not fiancés aunt number 3....."You are going to hurt peoples feelings."
I explained to her that I am not as close to them as I am the aunt and cousins that are invited. All of these relatives live out of state and the relatives on his side of the family I have invited always make time for us when we go down to visit. The uninvited aunts and etc. they do not make time to join us when we visit. She wants me to invite the additional aunt and niece of hers but exclude the third because they do not get along. If we are talking about principle here then I should invite all of my aunts and all of his aunts...but I do not want to do that because I am not close to them.
I am stuck feeling manipulated by what she wants me to do. After all, isn't this about who I want to be there and am I asking too much for these ladies to put their big girl panties on and deal with the fact that NOT everyone is invited because they aren't close to me so to speak?
Please some advice! Help a girl out before another bottle of wine is gone from this earth...lol