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Grandmother

Hello!
I was wondering how to properly incorporate my Fiance's grandmother. She will be the only grandparent in attendance as she is widowed and my grandparents are too old to travel unfortunately (almost 100) . I wasn't going to do corsages for anyone, but should we honor her with one? What would be the most appropriate way to incorporate her so she feels included? 

We are not doing a church wedding and I think this makes her feel off ,so I just want her to still feel like there is something traditional and special just for her. 

Re: Grandmother

  • Hello!
    I was wondering how to properly incorporate my Fiance's grandmother. She will be the only grandparent in attendance as she is widowed and my grandparents are too old to travel unfortunately (almost 100) . I wasn't going to do corsages for anyone, but should we honor her with one? What would be the most appropriate way to incorporate her so she feels included? 

    We are not doing a church wedding and I think this makes her feel off ,so I just want her to still feel like there is something traditional and special just for her. 
    I would have corsages for the moms if you could.   Could someone escort her to her seat and have her seated near your FI's parents? 
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston
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    I would ask your FI to ask his grandmother what would make her feel included and then act accordingly, assuming that her requests are reasonable and practical.

    If she'd like a corsage and that fits in your budget, by all means provide her with one. Or if she'd like, say, an escort down the aisle or a special song, and those are within the realm of reasonable possibility, I would arrange them.
  • I was thinking of having my FI Dad walk her down (his parents are divorced) and he is single so I thought it  would be nice. 
     I will definitely ask her--neither of our Moms want a corsage. lol
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  • My maternal grandmother is the only grandparent I have left also.

    The only processional we had was my FG and RB walking together and then myself with my mom.  So my grandma was already seated and in the front, before the ceremony started.

    My mom arranged for the flowers and got my grandma a corsage.  I'm not sure if she asked her or just assumed she would want one.

    I also got my grandmother a small, but meaningful gift, that I gave her the day before the wedding.

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  • Give her a corsage and seat her in the front row. Ask if she'd like to be part of the processional and she can be escorted by a family member. Get a special photo of her and your FI, and her and the two of you.
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  • Hello!
    I was wondering how to properly incorporate my Fiance's grandmother. She will be the only grandparent in attendance as she is widowed and my grandparents are too old to travel unfortunately (almost 100) . I wasn't going to do corsages for anyone, but should we honor her with one? What would be the most appropriate way to incorporate her so she feels included? 

    We are not doing a church wedding and I think this makes her feel off ,so I just want her to still feel like there is something traditional and special just for her. 
    Church weddings are not all that traditional.  For centuries, couples were married at the bride's home.  Usually a minister would perform the ceremony, but other officiants were also used.  Church weddings became fashionable in the USA in the 1930's.  I just thought you'd like this tidbit when talking to Grandma.
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  • CMGragainCMGragain
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    PS.  After 41 years, some of the most cherished photos from my wedding are the ones with Grandma.  Most of the relatives that attended our wedding are gone now.  So glad we had the formal poses taken!
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  • downtondivadowntondiva
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    I agree with PP's. Getting her a corsage would be nice, and make sure to ask your photographer to take some pictures of her with the whole family. I think that will be enough to make her feel special. 

    Don't worry about not having a church wedding. I think family members who feel funny about it beforehand usually aren't thinking about it all that much on the day itself. And even if that isn't the case, you don't owe her anything simply because you chose to get married someplace else. Grandma should feel special and included because she's your FI's grandmother; that is reason enough.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston
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    CMGragain said:
    Hello!
    I was wondering how to properly incorporate my Fiance's grandmother. She will be the only grandparent in attendance as she is widowed and my grandparents are too old to travel unfortunately (almost 100) . I wasn't going to do corsages for anyone, but should we honor her with one? What would be the most appropriate way to incorporate her so she feels included? 

    We are not doing a church wedding and I think this makes her feel off ,so I just want her to still feel like there is something traditional and special just for her. 
    Church weddings are not all that traditional.  For centuries, couples were married at the bride's home.  Usually a minister would perform the ceremony, but other officiants were also used.  Church weddings became fashionable in the USA in the 1930's.  I just thought you'd like this tidbit when talking to Grandma.

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    I thought Catholic weddings are and have always been required to take place in Catholic churches.
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