This is a customs and traditions board and I'd like to connect with my Albanian brides. There is so much to deal with as an Albanian woman, but weddings I feel are INSANE. Growing up and going to SOOO many weddings I've noticed a couple of things: we will invite anyone and everyone to our weddings; people will complain about EVERYTHING. This post stems from the fact that my parents seem to think that I should invite people to my wedding simply because they were once upon a time invited to their event. Fiance and I want a small wedding (for us that's 150 people LOL) and are paying for this ourselves. We are lucky to make enough money to cover something we want to do and do it the way we want to. We've been nice enough to ask our parents if there are any people they'd like us to consider putting on the final list of invitations. My mom gave me her suggestions- her reasons why she wanted specific people invited RIDICULOUS, but at least she was understanding when I explained that I wouldn't consider some of them. My dad, on the other hand, is telling me to nix my list because he has people he'd rather invite that are more important to him than those on my list. For some odd reason (not actually odd just downright illogical Albanian man) he doesn't understand that this is not his wedding, people who are important to him are not important to me. Heck he can't give me some of those peoples real names or their relation to us. He was also confused that 150 is our combined total for people at the venue. There are obviously people across the ocean we need to invite as a courtesy, we will, we just know that realistically they won't be able to make it. He for some reason thinks they will (but ain't nobody giving visa's out and ain't nobody have the money).
Is there anyone else having issues with their parents being realistic? The lack of logic in my conversation with dad, in particular, was SOOO frustrating.