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Do I send a gift, two gifts, gift plus card? So many choices..

Knottie10724897Knottie10724897 member
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A friend of mine is getting married out of the U.S. and my husband and I are unable to attend because of the cost and time. She is having a small reception at her parent's home in the U.S. two months later, which we do plan to attend.

My question is - should I send her a gift from her registry at the time of the actual wedding? Do I send a gift before the later reception (so we don't have to fly with it)? Do I send a gift at the time of the wedding plus bring a card or another gift to the reception? So many options. I definitely want to get them something but just not sure what the right way to go about it is in this situation. This community always seems to set me straight on what is appropriate :) 

Thanks!! 
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Re: Do I send a gift, two gifts, gift plus card? So many choices..

  • ahoyweddingahoywedding member
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    I would get one gift and send it to their home close the the legal wedding date. Send it either early enough it gets there before they leave or after you know they've returned. If you feel uncomfortable or weird showing up to the later reception empty-handed, I don't think it would be stupid or out of line to bring a card to that. Most of the gifts that are ordered online don't come with a card so you wouldn't be duplicating anything. You don't need to put anything in the card, just a nice message of congratulations and letting them know you're happy to celebrate with them, etc.
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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    I’m sure you know this but you are not obligated to send a gift at all. The party they’re throwing is not a “reception”...receptions happen immediately following the wedding itself. They’re throwing a party - that’s it. 

    That said, a gift is more appropriate at the time of the actual wedding. Try to have it mailed before the leave or when you know they’re back so it doesn’t sit on their porch. 
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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
    Knottie Warrior 10000 Comments 500 Love Its 5 Answers
    scribe95 said:
    Send a gift at the time of the wedding and bring more of hostess-type gift for AHR - a nice bottle of wine etc.
    Exactly what I was just about to write. 
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  • Knottie10724897Knottie10724897 member
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    Thanks for your input everyone!  <3
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  • knottie7c682baa8072d922knottie7c682baa8072d922 member
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    Okay, international wedding gift conundrum! Let's untangle this.

    Here’s my take:

    Wedding Gift (Now):
    Yes! Send a gift from their registry around the time of the actual wedding. It's a lovely gesture, even if you can't be there. 🥰

    Reception Gift (Optional):
    Bringing a card to the reception is perfect. You could also bring a small, personal gift if you feel inclined, but it’s not required. ✨

    Avoid Double Gifts:
    Sending a large second gift to the reception is a bit much. The registry gift covers the wedding itself.

    Think of it as celebrating their marriage twice, once from afar and once in person. The registry gift acknowledges the official wedding, and the card (or small gift) at the reception shows your continued support. ☺️

    My friend also had an international wedding and used MyRegistry to make her wedding registry. We got a pretty big gift for her and her husband and we were able to send it right to their address, which would be perfect in your case as well.
    So, send that registry gift, write a heartfelt card, and enjoy the reception. You've got this! 🎉
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