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Gift for Groom's birth mother
I am stumped on this....
The groom's birth mother and adopted mother are both attending the wedding (they are both very close).
Long story short - the birth mother is the sister of the groom's father and technically he was adopted by his uncle and aunt when he was a little baby....cut to now....everyone knows and everyone is great with it.
I already have a gift in mind for his adopted mother but I'm not sure what to get his birth mother. The groom thinks of her as more of an aunt but still wants her to feel included.
I was thinking something meaningful like: Thanks for giving birth to the man of my dream's instead of raising him. Or a picture frame with a nice saying.
Are there any suggestions on a meaningful present I can get the groom's birth mother?
Thank you!
The groom's birth mother and adopted mother are both attending the wedding (they are both very close).
Long story short - the birth mother is the sister of the groom's father and technically he was adopted by his uncle and aunt when he was a little baby....cut to now....everyone knows and everyone is great with it.
I already have a gift in mind for his adopted mother but I'm not sure what to get his birth mother. The groom thinks of her as more of an aunt but still wants her to feel included.
I was thinking something meaningful like: Thanks for giving birth to the man of my dream's instead of raising him. Or a picture frame with a nice saying.
Are there any suggestions on a meaningful present I can get the groom's birth mother?
Thank you!
Re: Gift for Groom's birth mother
What does she love? Maybe buy what’d you’d get her for her birthday with a meaningful card? If she and your FI are taking any special photos together on your wedding day, you can have one framed (nice frame but no saying necessary) and give it up her after the wedding.
If you want her to feel special day of you could give her a corsage. One of H’s aunts helped raise him (his mother left before he turned two) and they’re still close; we gave her a corsage and she really appreciated it.
As for the message, I would leave out the words "instead of raising him." That could provoke some painful feelings.
The gifts for groom's parents should come from the groom. A nice frame with a promise of a wedding photo is an ideal gift.
What about a nice picture frame with a wedding photo and a corsage for the day of?
And really, this should come from your FI. Let him figure it out.
There are numerous, numerous mother of the groom gifts available on Etsy and the like that say "thank you for raising the man of my dreams". I think that OP was suggesting that she create a gift that said "thank you for giving birth to the man of my dreams" in lieu of the more common phrasing, not that she actually wanted to say "instead of raising.
Her phrasing made this unclear in the post, but I don't think she was actually intending to say anything insulting.
The gift for the MOG should be from the groom, though, so that still doesn't make sense. There's no need for cutsey sayings on the frames. Select frames that go with each mom's home decor.
But I understand what you're saying in terms of phrasing.
I just recognized the phrasing and made the connection. I didn't want the OP to get jumped on for being rude when it was just a simple miscommunication.
You didn't come back to let us know we misunderstood you. Another knottie#s stepped in for you, though.
Who suggested that your fi shouldn't give his birth mother a gift? No one. I would not put 'Thank you for giving birth to the man I love' on the birth mother's gift. The gift should come from him, just as his mother's gift comes from him. He could write, 'Thank you for loving me,' 'Thank you for being there for me,' or whatever is appropriate to their relationship. The gift doesn't have to be wedding themed - and the message can be written on the gift tag, rather than painted on the actual gift.
Pet peeve of mine: when OPs come back to threads only to focus entirely on comments they don't like and completely ignore the helpful people who took time out of their days to try and help a stranger.