Sad... :(

Re: Sad... :(

• RaptorSLH member

  

  October 2011 edited December 2011

  *Obligatory warning, MOH and BM are not required to help out with wedding planning.  If she wants to be, great, but she doesn't have to be.*

  
  

  I'll assume here that she wants to be involved.  I'm in central Pennsylvania, but my bridesmaid and bridesman are in Tennessee.  They're really excited, but obviously couldn't come gown shopping with me...so we took lots of pictures, and I made a Powerpoint presentation with illustrations and running commentary.   They loved it!  If I had your kind of time zone difference, I'd probably use my cell phone and Skype less, and e-mail more.  Don't be shy with the pictures.  

  
  

  When the time comes for her dress, she can give you her measurements, and the store can help you figure out her size.  She can look at designers online and give you input into styles that way, if she knows what she likes.  Or you can give her some basic criteria (color, length, maybe fabric) and let her find her own dress.  Your wedding party doesn't have to match unless you want it to.

  
  

  If your sister wants to be involved, you'll find a way.  I'm sorry you're going to be missing her, but it's good to hear about sisters who are so close.  There are any number of posters here - myself among them - that would gladly trade for the relationship you have with yours.  Good luck!

  
  

  

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• quiggels219

  

  October 2011 edited December 2011

  It sucks your sister is moving so far away - I'm in NYC my sisters in phoenix so we are pretty far too. Your sister can still be involved and share special moments! I send her emails with questions and asking for advice (she likes that stuff though - always very nurturing with me maybe because I'm 9 years younger and that's just her personality) and we talk a lot, which maybe you can't do but skype is free! I send her pics of things I find and love - it works Also for dresses, one of my bms lives in London and I contacted the corporate headquarters of the designer I chose to do bm dresses and they actually gave me contact infor of a store in London that had a few options for her to try! (I'm choosing a color and designer and they choose their style). I'm using bari jay. Dont know where else they have dresses but it's an option. She probably won't be able to attend pre-wedding parties but that's something you just have to accept and know if she could I'm sure she would. When my bm told me she was saving everything she could to make it to my bachlorette I was touched but then I told her that was completely absurd and to only come if she won a free flight to America and wasn't in the mood to see her family! I know she loves me - she doesn't have to be there to prove it - just like your big Sis

  

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• RailWayWife member

  

  October 2011 edited December 2011

  Im so sorry to hear that! I know if my sister was leaving for 3 years I would be devastated!

   

  With that being said, Yes she is going to be gone but don’t make her leaving about your wedding. This is going to be a huge part of her life and must be extremely hard on her to be leaving home.

   

  Keep in touch with her. Don’t let the distance get between you two. Write letters, emails or whatever you have to do.

   

  Good Luck

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