Hi Knotties, I have a question about elderly family members. My grandmother (my dad's mom) has alzheimer's or dementia, possibly both. Sometimes she thinks I am my older sister when I visit, but when reminded, she sometimes knows me and even remembers my fiance a little bit. But sometimes she is just very stuck in the past and is mostly just stressed out about one thing or another.
There is also an increasing language barrier because she is Japanese, and while she has long forgotten most of the language, she is also having more and more trouble with communicating in English as well. She gets easily disoriented and has been living in a nursing home for the last two years, her husband having left her and my dad decades ago, and my family no longer able to care for her full-time.
I love her very much. But I just don't know if her attendance at our wedding ceremony or reception would be worth the confusion or stress it would cause her. I have my doubts that she would know who was getting married from moment to moment; she would be stressed out and almost certainly would not be able to enjoy herself.
My question is this: Should I still send her an invitation? Am I being heartless by considering NOT sending her one? Please help! Thanks~