We're basically planning an elopement - we're getting legally married on a sandy beach in St. Thomas and bringing two witnesses (his brother, my best friend). Here's the question though - when do you tell family, especially if they aren't invited?
eta: We will be throwing a reception as a chance for everyone to celebrate with us a few months after the wedding - no gifts, just a big party. We're keeping the wedding itself small because a) we can't afford to fly/house the whole family and b) they can't afford to fly/stay either.