My MIL asked my fiance and I do dance where she can dance with her stepson since she didn't get to do the mother and son dance with him at his wedding. He is in the military so she phrased it that it could be like an honor dance for military members. She said my fiance could dance with his aunt who is a retired vet. But the only person in my family that was in the military is my great uncle and he might not even attend so I would have no one to dance with. Even if my great uncle can attend, he is very shy and likely wouldn't want to dance. My fiance also thinks his brother's wife would feel left out because her husband would be dancing with my MIL. I have no problem honoring the military, but if choose to do that I think the veterans should be able to pick who they dance with instead of us telling them. What do you guys think?