What would you do?
I'm getting married in October and we are starting to finalize our guest list. We have stuck to immediate family, family friends, and our friends.
I have my immediate family from my mom's, step dad's and dad's side. My step dad has generously offered to pay for our reception venue. It's more than I could ever ask for or pay back. He also gave me a maximum amount he would pay.
I asked my dad if there was anyone of his friends or anyone particular he would want to invite. I gave him a maximum of 5-10 people. He asked my stepmom and aunt and came back to me with a list of 33 people. This list includes 2nd cousins, people I haven't seen in years, or relatives I just don't talk too. My grandparents are no longer alive so he wants to sub in their siblings and their families. It would add on an additional $2500 .
I told him there was absolutely no way I could add that amount on and then he said they were suggestions or he talks to them and to pick and choose then he would explain that those who are invited are people I keep up with.
I don't feel right picking and choosing nor do I feel right inviting the people on his list because I'm not even inviting extended from my step dad's side. I feel like he put me in a really sticky spot.
I've been advised to give him an ultimatum:
You want them there, you pay for them or
None of them get invited