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tthor90
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Mother In Law Dress Color
My wedding is right around the corner and almost all the details are taken care of. The only thing still up in the air is my future mother-in-law’s dress. My wedding colors are navy and burgundy, the groom and groomsmen in navy and the bridesmaids in burgundy. My mom picked a champagne colored dress about 9 months ago and my MIL loved it and started looking for her dress. She tried on a lot of navy dresses, which I wasnt a fan of becuase it matches the groomsmen. My fiancé talked her into trying on other colors and she bought a grey dress and a navy dress with plans to wear the navy one for a different event. Well, today she told us she is going to wear the navy dress to the wedding. I got upset but my fiancé thinks I'm overreacting. Is it inappropriate for me to be annoyed by this? Any opinion on this would be appreciated.
Edit: Looks like I hit the bridezilla phase - time to do some reevaluating. Thanks everyone for your input!
Edit: Looks like I hit the bridezilla phase - time to do some reevaluating. Thanks everyone for your input!
Re: Mother In Law Dress Color
If she wears navy, she will look great in pictures because she will be happy that her son is getting married and will be in a dress that obviously makes her feel good. No one will care that her dress is the same color as the bridesmaids groomsmen. My MIL was in basically the same color as the bridesmaids too. Did not matter one iota.
Of course you are irrational to be upset! You get no say in what your FMIL wears. At all. Not even a little bit. Not even if she wants to wear a polka dot bikini. It's a good thing your FI called you out!
The only attire question I shared with my DD was whether she would have any care if I wore pants. It bothered me more than it ever would her.
PLEASE don't fret about what anyone wears. Navy is a neutral. It's going to be worn by tons of people on your wedding day.
More like "Bridal Blinders Phase". Time was some got uptight about the color the Moms were wearing, now, it's more important that they're comfortable and feel like a million bucks wearing whatever it is they selected. The only reason to get grumpy would be if she chose a white-white gown in a similar style to your bridal gown, then yea, gloves off crazy FMIL, but even then we'd still say "on her not you!"..
You really overstepped. Tell your FMIL her navy dress is perfect for your wedding.
Besides, it seems to me that half the MOB/MOG dresses out there are navy blue (I can tell you my MIL wore it to my wedding and my mom wore it to my brother's wedding). You're really limiting someone if you don't let them consider navy!
Because that's way different than your son's fiance calling you up and saying, "I need you to be in a cobalt blue, not SUPER cobalt but cobalt-ey long dress with sleeves". Or, how would you feel if you bought a silver dress you loved and she decides you can't wear it because the cake cutting set is silver?
Asking for and actually wanting input is way different than dictating attire.
The OP tried to shoot down the choice her FMIL loved, so she ended up with two dresses. In the end she's going to wear her first choice, but it's leaving a bitter taste in the bride's mouth. It didn't have to be that way. Mothers should not be treated like wedding accessories that are color coordinated.