We got engaged at the first weekend in April. I had always known I wanted a spring wedding, so we planned for May 2020. We checked out a few venues and chose a beautiful farm with a historic greenhouse for the ceremony and reception in their main hall. It is my dream come true. On Easter Sunday a friend got engaged and she shortly afterward asked me where I had started in the wedding planning because she was overwhelmed. I innocently mentioned the venue we picked and now she is leaning toward picking it as well. We are in Columbus, OH and there are plenty of venue choices. I know I am not the first to have a wedding at this venue but I do not personally know anyone else who has had it there. They want to have a December wedding this year so their wedding will be first about 5 months prior to ours and I cant help but think everyone will think we copied. Plus I don't want to attend another wedding at my own venue while I am in the process of planning it, I know I will end up worrying about making sure ours is different in every way. I know it is not a competition and I am happy for her, but I am finding this to be a hard pill to swallow. I don't even know what to say back to her because I am somewhat heartbroken. I think it is a tacky thing to do and I would have never directly copied someone if they had told me they had theirs planned somewhere first. I just can't imagine what she is thinking, and I don't think I can attend their wedding if they have it there.
Has anyone else encountered this situation? What did you do? Am I being immature? How should I respond?