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Hump Day

Not much here.  We had a skid of mulch delivered yesterday so I guess I'm spending the morning doing that. Baseball game tonight.

I'm really having lots of feels about the Women's National Team win yesterday and the social media reaction.  I took M2 and Max to a soccer skills last night with her new club.  The coach pushed her.  Not like the boys, but like a female playing a sport.  Boys and girls ARE different.  They have a different body type.  Their minds are different.  If you train female like a male she will blow most likely blow out a knee in puberty. When she got physical against a boy he didn't tell her "you should dial back" he told her she had a good response to his style.  When she had a great ball he didn't tell her to be subdued he told her "I like your been there done that face, but it's ok to celebrate a great play!' 

It's kind of like when someone asks DH and I about our experiences in the paper industry.  We worked for the same company in the same lines of progression with the exact same people.  Our experiences could not have been any more different. 

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  • M2's coach sounds amazing.  :) 

    Black beans, sausage, and cheese stuffed peppers sounds delicious.  My stomach is growling thinking about it.  ;) 

    FIL closes on his new house today. YAY.  One thing on the revolving life list out of the way.  

    We're starting to get excited about the big party we're having at the end of the month (it's not for anything in particular, DH just wanted to have a party because).  It's turning into a weekend event since OOT people are coming on Friday.  We're planning to do a pizza party with everyone. 

    It's been so nice that our windows have been open for a few days now.  However, the fucking birds are out there before 5am making their presence known.  I want to like birbs, but they make it hard.  LOL

    Anyway, SSDD...pass all the coffee my way. 
  • @6fsn I like that coach. The wording they used for her sounds really encouraging! :)

    @VarunaTT Oh I didn't realize it was the anniversary today :( I knew it was coming though. Vibes for you today <3
    I vote quinoa. I had a mushroom stuffed with italian sausage, cheese, onion, tomatoe and quinoa and it was sooo good that I would 100% eat the mix alone lol


    BabyKitten tried bell pepper last night lol ... she liked the crunch it seems. Didn't care one way or another on the taste. We made quesadillas but only made hers with cheese. She ate like half of it then gave up {basically just a folded up tortilla, but half of that} so we offered her greek yogurt - which she ended up eating 3/4 of it lol

    M's grandmother isn't doing well and sounds like going home won't be a thing at the moment, so she'll be in a hospital near their home.
    I don't do well with hospitals, but I know going to visit soon will be a thing. M knows I get awful panic attacks in hospitals {rough memories}
  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    That’s a lot to wade through @VarunaTT
  • Hugs and grandma vibes @MissKittyDanger<3 
  • @mrsconn23 whooo weekend party! on my way ;) And yeh, it's such a hard thing. You wanna have windows open, but birds don't stfu .... which in my case wakes the friggen cats so they're at me at 5:45am and my alarm goes of at 6:45am .... guh
  • @CharmedPam lmao! I love that those are 2 things you like about your H :')
    I've heard great reviews about that movie, and part of me wants to watch but part of me doesn't wanna destroy my thoughts of Zac Efron lol
  • @CharmedPam lmao! I love that those are 2 things you like about your H :')
    I've heard great reviews about that movie, and part of me wants to watch but part of me doesn't wanna destroy my thoughts of Zac Efron lol
    I don’t really follow his work - but I thought he did a good job.  I also started the Netflix documentary on him too, but never finished it.  Watch it!

  • I need to finish that documentary!  I have been wanting to see the movie on Netflix - I'll add it to my list.
  • I wrote all of that here, b/c I'm still a community voice at home whether I want to be or not, and I didn't want my FB to center my memories, bur rather then people who were murdered.  Ya'll are basically my therapists.  :smiley:

    I haven't watched the Bundy movie w/Effron b/c I have feels about doing true crime media in general when victims are still present and alive.  We're trying to get caught up on Pose since the second season started.  And I have When They See Us to start watching.  I'm avoiding it a bit because I know I'm going to be upset AF, but I also consider it a duty.

    Birds are why I never sleep in while camping.  I have a love/hate relationship with them.  
  • Varuna - Hugs

    MKD - I wish grandma healing and healthy vibes!

    Last night was good.  Late in the afternoon we were offered free Phillies tickets!  So after a quick call to MIL, who could babysit, we were ready to go!  It was a good game with hits and excitement!  Not like the last game we went to where it was a pitching duel.

    I am sitting in my office right now with the windows open and its gorgeous.  Not 15 minutes ago, my officemate and I hear crunching out the window.  Its a landscaper truck practically ripping off a bumper of one of our cars!  So that's been an exciting time!  We are waiting to see whose car it is! 

    Not much tonight.  I'm trying to schedule with my friend to meet her new baby and I can't wait to hold him!  I think it will also help settle the debate between my mind and heart if we want to keep trying for a 2nd.

  • VarunaTT said:
    I wrote all of that here, b/c I'm still a community voice at home whether I want to be or not, and I didn't want my FB to center my memories, bur rather then people who were murdered.  Ya'll are basically my therapists.  :smiley:

    I haven't watched the Bundy movie w/Effron b/c I have feels about doing true crime media in general when victims are still present and alive.  We're trying to get caught up on Pose since the second season started.  And I have When They See Us to start watching.  I'm avoiding it a bit because I know I'm going to be upset AF, but I also consider it a duty.

    Birds are why I never sleep in while camping.  I have a love/hate relationship with them.  
    Yes I see what you’re saying.  He was a truly scary sick and twisted man. Without giving much away this movie focused a lot on his relationship with him and his fiancé, which is how the whole topic started with us.

  • Hugs for you, @VarunaTT

    Sending good healing vibes for M's grandmother, @MissKittyDanger!

    Not much new here. Trying to crank on a deadline and dodge the stupid shit my boss is lobbing over the fence so I can get said deadline done. 
  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    @VarunaTT, hang in there today! Thanks for sharing your story about the pride event you co-chaired that year.  It was inspiring.

    @MissKittyDanger, healing vibes to M's grandma. Try relaxation exercises right before any hospital visits.  And, if it becomes too overwhelming, I'm sure M and his family would understand if you keep your visits shorter and fewer.

    My dry cough yesterday turned into a cold, but I actually feel better because I'm coughing less today and my throat feels more open.

    I felt like I was finally getting control of my work load at work and catching up.  And then I got a surprise e-mail that I need to complete two steel packages asap.  But, but.  I have a priority list of the packages we are processing over the next two months and these aren't even on it.  Frick!

    I did have a nice night, last night. I have friend from CA that I've known for 25 years.  We don't stay in touch as often as we'd like, but we were both on FB last night and chatted for the longest time.  It was great to catch up. 

    -------------------------------------------- 

    I'm getting my friend's issues off my chest.  It's like my own Prudie letter of the day, lol.  Sorry it's long.

    I like her H and he's a great guy, but I'm really side-eying him right now.  Let me set the background.  They have been wanting to move out of CA for a few years now.  For financial (HCOL) and political reasons.  They're really conservative and CA is a liberal state.  And I am all for it!!!!  I would LOVE to see them get out because I know they really struggle with money.  I have sung my song so many times of how FREEING it was to move to a much cheaper area.  Now, my friend is fairly open to a number of places.  But, as it turns out, her H is not.  It's basically Idaho or nothing, smh.  It's a bad choice for the sheer fact that it is a booming area where rents and housing prices are skyrocketing, but wages are not.  They're dismal and they'd be going backwards, even with the lower COL.

    Well!  I found this out last night.  Apparently, they have a great opportunity to move to Kentucky.  He can get a good job through contacts they have.  He flatly refused because he's afraid of "tornadoes".  I'm like, "What? Kentucky isn't even in tornado alley and they rarely have them. Is he confusing them with Kansas, just because both states start with a K?"  I was mostly joking.  But then she said, "Oh, he might be."  Are you kidding me right now?  Then talk to him and consider it again.  KY is not a tornado-prone state at all, so don't let him gaslight you with that b.s..  It's in a completely different part of the country from Kansas, FFS.  Though, really, I think he's just grabbing at any excuse to chose Idaho.

    I get she needs to keep her H happy too and it should definitely be a mutual decision.  But she's already told him she doesn't think she would like Idaho and would definitely hate the weather.  Yet, he's brushed HER concerns aside with, "No, really.  It's not as bad as you think.  You'll get used to it."  

    I also think their problem is they are both picky people and are very scared to take such a big jump.  I've previously told her they need to notch it way down with the pickiness.  The fear is a major obstacle I can totally understand, but they need to power through or they're just going to keep living in inertia for more years.  Which is why KY sounds so great because knowing a few people and already having a job lined up is about as soft a landing as you can get!  It is what my friend wants to do, but her H is a hard "no".  Argh!  It's such an obvious choice to me and I hope she can convince him.

    It's the conundrum of you keep seeing someone you care about continually doing the same things, yet somehow expecting their life and problems to get better.
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  • ei34ei34 member
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    *hugs* and thank you for the date reminder @VarunaTT , coach sounds awesome 6, ugghh that friend conundrum would annoy me too @short+sassy

    Nothing new by me...just watching the words fly on facebook.  Cousin's wife posted a cute handwritten note by her 6-year-old "sorry tooth fairy I lost my tooth by mistake" and I'm surprised by the number of "that wouldn't fly by me, no tooth no prize" "actions have consequences" "this is a teachable moment" etc.  Like..relax...the tooth fair is such a light, silly thing to begin with.  Not to mention the number of kids who lose teeth biting into an apple or a sandwich at school.  Cuz-in-law is being very polite, easygoing and diplomatic like she is IRL but she's probably regretting posting the cute, harmless note at this point.
  • Sorta expanding on Eileen's story of "think its cute, but society sees different" (I agree with you and cousin's wife on the issue btw).  But has any one seen the viral video where the 6 month old thinks her name is Alexa?  That breaks my heart!  And you know those parents posted it, thinking "how cute is this!!!!"  Except think that you talk to Alexa so much, the baby doesn't know its own name!  The comments were all "how sad" and "Maybe they should engage with their child rather than Alexa more".
  • @short+sassy  the likelihood is I'd just ensure I go earlier in the day, so when my daily dose meds kick it and it should keep me calm-er. I'll try the relaxation exercises though - can't hurt to give it a chance :) 

    He could be confusing Kentucky with Kansas, but you're right - it sounds like he's just thinking "Not Idaho"
    I'd wanna know why there tbh It doesn't seem like a "booming place" unless he has plans that he hasn't shared?
  • Sending healing vibes for M’s grandma, @MissKittyDanger!

    Sending hugs for you, @VarunaTT!

    Took DW to two doctors’ appointments this morning, then came home to do more laundry, clean up the kitchen, and do some general straightening up. DW has been itching to get back to her normal routine, and I have to remind her every so often to take it easy. 
  • @CharmedPam The wording of the link made me read it 3x because it kinda sounded like he was signing for the ban lol
  • Ugh. We got breakfast in the VA cafeteria between appointments and now I’m sick. DW is OK, and I should be OK for work tomorrow, but I’m not happy right now.
  • @short+sassy  the likelihood is I'd just ensure I go earlier in the day, so when my daily dose meds kick it and it should keep me calm-er. I'll try the relaxation exercises though - can't hurt to give it a chance :) 

    He could be confusing Kentucky with Kansas, but you're right - it sounds like he's just thinking "Not Idaho"
    I'd wanna know why there tbh It doesn't seem like a "booming place" unless he has plans that he hasn't shared?
    I think he briefly lived there, though I don't remember how long ago or when.  Though it has to be over 15 years.  He has distant family there and a some friends.  But, that's it!  Or at least all that my friend has mentioned when I've asked the same question.

    They also like the politics there but, as I pointed out to my friend, there are a lot of places that are conservative and relatively cheap to live relative to wages.  So they can have both.  I joked they could throw a dart a few times into the Midwest or the South and find contenders.  
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  • I hope I can post. Every time I've tried to post today it hasn't worked -erg! Hugs for you and your H and that his grandma recovers quickly @MissKittyDanger. The coach sounds great @6fsn. Sounds like you did a great job @VarunaTT and should be proud of what you accomplished. 
    I've been off a day all week! I went to WW this morning looking forward to Prudie, but alas it is only Wednesday! LOL. I've been running errands and getting ready to head to Chicago for grand twins 1st birthday tomorrow. I haven't seen SIL's parents since some crappy stuff happened in January so not looking forward to that. Also, I hope his mom doesn't talk about what a rough time my DD had when the boys were born. Last year we went out to dinner with them while DD was in the hospital and she kept saying "she could've died". Thank you very much for saying that to me when I could hardly hold it together! Some people have no social skills/radar!



  • kvrunskvruns member
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    @ILoveBeachMusic I hope you have a great trip and the other parents keep their mouths shut. Who says that to the mom of the lady who just had the babies??
  • @ILoveBeachMusic That's awful of SIL's parents to say! My mum has a rough time {also almost died} when having me, and it's not hush-hush but it's always referred to as "rough labour that could have gone worse without doctors and nurses thinking quick" and then my mum always mentions how much her MIL was able to help out when she got home. Like if you need to mention it, be tactful or stfu ....

    I missed the whole ordeal of your DD, but hopefully her recovery was good and all is okay now!
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    @ILoveBeachMusic That's awful of SIL's parents to say! My mum has a rough time {also almost died} when having me, and it's not hush-hush but it's always referred to as "rough labour that could have gone worse without doctors and nurses thinking quick" and then my mum always mentions how much her MIL was able to help out when she got home. Like if you need to mention it, be tactful or stfu ....

    I missed the whole ordeal of your DD, but hopefully her recovery was good and all is okay now!
    Thanks @MissKittyDanger. She is doing great and has been since about a month or so after the boys were born. Gratefully the babies weren't in any danger and have been perfect! They were big twins (around 8 lbs each) which was part of the problem.

  • @ILoveBeachMusic That's awful of SIL's parents to say! My mum has a rough time {also almost died} when having me, and it's not hush-hush but it's always referred to as "rough labour that could have gone worse without doctors and nurses thinking quick" and then my mum always mentions how much her MIL was able to help out when she got home. Like if you need to mention it, be tactful or stfu ....

    I missed the whole ordeal of your DD, but hopefully her recovery was good and all is okay now!
    Thanks @MissKittyDanger. She is doing great and has been since about a month or so after the boys were born. Gratefully the babies weren't in any danger and have been perfect! They were big twins (around 8 lbs each) which was part of the problem.

    Similar issue with my mum. I was 7lbs 7oz and dr said if I had been a bit smaller, it would have been better.
    Crazy how twins are 8lbs each and BabyKitten was 6lb 11oz!
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