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I cannot with you, LW.

mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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Dear Prudence,

My husband and son share the same name. Many people think this is odd, but I think it’s adorable. We called my son Baby XYZ for a while in order to distinguish him from his father, XYZ.

As my son has gotten older, I’ve started to transition from calling him Baby XYZ to Lil XYZ. However, I’m worried this could be bad for his self-esteem. Should I stop? I am starting to worry that my son will not be able to see himself as a responsible individual if we continue to modify his name.

—Mother of Junior

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  • downtondivadowntondiva member
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    Children have been named after their parents for centuries. Why can't they call him XYZ Jr. or give him a different nickname from his dad? LW is really overthinking this! 
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  • MissKittyDangerMissKittyDanger member
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    She could refer to him as XJ as a nickname or idk .... ASK XYZ jr what he wants to be called.
    He could be wanting to be called Batman. You don't know.
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  • bubblylovebubblylove member
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    My brother was Little Mitch most of his life - even when he grew to 6'4'' and bigger than my dad. He was fine. Don't overthink things. 
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2019
    DH is a Jr and the kiddo is the III.   DH's uncle is named after DH's grandfather, and his cousin was named after grandpa and dad. (However, I think it's not a Jr/III situation as the middle names may be different...not sure though. DH's family is weird about GMIL/GFIL, who are both deceased now. Lots of rehashing of their childhoods and how bad they were for all the reasons. Lots of passive-aggression all around.) 

    I wonder where this person lives/is from where they've literally never met someone that was named after a parent.  There are people who 'hide' it by going by their middle name or some sort of nickname that makes it less obvious.  But it's not that outlandish, IMO. 
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    This is so dumb. 
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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    I mean it couldn’t possibly be as easy as asking your son what he wants to be called, could it??
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    This is like...a non-issue if I ever heard one. When I was seven I decided that my nickname was a “baby’s name” and I demanded I be called by my full name. Then I reverted back to my nickname in college. If JR wants his name to be different he’ll say so. 


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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    I can't focus on the actual question because I'm too fascinated by the LW thinking it's "odd" that their child is named after the father.

    How has this happened?  How sheltered has their life been?  Tell me your story, LW, lol!
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    short+sassy said:
    I can't focus on the actual question because I'm too fascinated by the LW thinking it's "odd" that their child is named after the father.

    How has this happened?  How sheltered has their life been?  Tell me your story, LW, lol!
    And even if she was born under a rock where juniors don't exist, why wouldn't they have discussed this during naming? She went along with naming her kid a junior all while thinking it was odd? 
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    levioosa said:
    This is like...a non-issue if I ever heard one. When I was seven I decided that my nickname was a “baby’s name” and I demanded I be called by my full name. Then I reverted back to my nickname in college. If JR wants his name to be different he’ll say so. 
    Non-issue indeed.  I can't believe it made it to published on Prudie.  My father and brother have the same name and so do my H and FIL...they're all functioning well enough  ;)
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    My H and FIL have the same name too. And my H is a "II", and not a junior. I don't know why..haha. But one was "Rob" and one was "Robby". Now I need to find out of my H was ever "Lil Rob". 
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  • kerbohlkerbohl member
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    My opa had an obsession with a particular name, and ended up using it for I think four or five of his kids - either the middle name or a feminized name or something like that.  There are ways to call people or nickname or whatever that makes it less confusing.  It's not that hard.
    I also have five Uncle Johns, so whenever I'm talking about one usually I have to end up specifying.  

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    kerbohl said:
    My opa had an obsession with a particular name, and ended up using it for I think four or five of his kids - either the middle name or a feminized name or something like that.  There are ways to call people or nickname or whatever that makes it less confusing.  It's not that hard.
    I also have five Uncle Johns, so whenever I'm talking about one usually I have to end up specifying.  

    Seconded, except jerry and lee.
    And with Lee, we have to specify Lee X, Lee Y, LeeAnn Y (married to Lee Y) or Lee Y1 (son of Lee Y).  Plus the Lee on the mr's side.

    little jerry has been bigger than little jerry for decades and bigger than Jerry I longer.
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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    Oh LW, it's not that unusual!  DD would have had the same first name as H, if she were a boy.  We actually agreed on a boy name in about 5 minutes!  Then we found out it was a girl and debated for months!  DD would have shared H's name, which also is shared by my dad and brother.  We also used to have a great Uncle and my grandpop with the same first name, but they have passed.  If DD had been a boy, she would have had my dad's middle name and been called by her initials.

    My dad was always "Big Name" and my brother was "Little Name", but then my brother grew 6 inches taller than my dad!  Brother just goes by Name now, but my dad still gets Big Name.  In my family my H has become Name-y, which is also what his family calls him. 
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