You. Can't. Tell. Other. People. What. To. Do. (or where to spend their money)

Re: You. Can't. Tell. Other. People. What. To. Do. (or where to spend their money)

• downtondiva member

  

  December 2019

  If your family members specifically ask if there's anything you want for Christmas, you can mention the gift certificate thing. Beyond that, there isn't really anything you can do about this. I get where you're coming from about Amazon, but please don't be so judgmental about your family relying on it as they do. 

  
  

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• banana468 member

  

  December 2019

  downtondiva said:

  If your family members specifically ask if there's anything you want for Christmas, you can mention the gift certificate thing. Beyond that, there isn't really anything you can do about this. I get where you're coming from about Amazon, but please don't be so judgmental about your family relying on it as they do. 

  This.  Also, understand that small business use Amazon as their platform to GET their small business out there.    
  
  You can't tell anyone how to spend their money though. 

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• mrsconn23 member

  

  December 2019 edited December 2019

  If you're that concerned about where people may buy gifts for you, then tell them you don't need any.  Also, any big box retailer has their ills.  I mean Amazon's treatment of workers didn't come from nowhere, there's a long history of shitty labor practices in this country and companies getting away with it for far too long. 
  
  Or ask them to donate to a charity in your name,  But make sure you offer several charities to choose from, because not everyone wants to give money to the organizations you want to support.  And check how much of the donation will actually go to help the cause vs. line someone's pocket.  Also, if you think there's rampant abuse with Amazon...ooh boy, don't look too closely at the charity world.  That's a bigger, more fraudulent shitshow in some cases. 

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• MissKittyDanger member

  

  December 2019

  Agreed with all.
  You can't tell anyone where to buy your gifts, you can only say not to buy you anything - or if they still want to do something for you, you could also say "instead of gifts, please donate to X charity this year"

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• charlotte989875 member

  

  December 2019

  You don’t get to impose your values on anyone, even if you’re right. If they ask what you want you can mention the spa/stores/whatever you like but you can’t tell them not to order from Amazon. 

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• short+sassy member

  

  December 2019

  A peek into the occasional quirkiness of myself and my H, lol.  We sometimes state our opinions as if they are coming from our dog, lol.  We were just having a conversation a few nights ago about Amazon's power in the marketplace.
  
  It stemmed from me and a commercial I saw that, I initially thought was about a technology that was bragging about the companies that use it (ie Zillow and Dunkin-To-Go app).  Only to realize at the end that it is yet another facet of the Amazon monster.
  
  So I said to my H, "Izzy has become increasingly concerned that Amazon has it's paws in an increasing number of pies."
  
  H: "Why would Izzy be concerned about that?"
  
  Me...I think too much power in the hands of one company is just not a good thing, overall.  But now I have to reply back to my H from why a dog might be concerned.  Here's what I came up with:
  
  "Izzy worries they have a long-term plan to undersell her favorite stuffy toy and b-a-l-l.  Amazon puts those companies out of business.  Less competition.  So then they jack up the prices.  And she gets fewer toys." 
  
  She is an amazing dog that, despite being born in the 2010s, she came up with the plot line of a few '80s movies, lmao.   
  

  

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• VarunaTT member

  

  December 2019 edited December 2019

  I think this is a little bit different b/c I feel like most adults ask other adults what they want for Christmas?  Maybe that's just my circle.  If asked, I think it's fine to direct either towards something that wouldn't use Amazon (local brick and mortar) or a charity you'd prefer or a GC or something.  I also don't think there's anything wrong with saying, "I'd prefer you didn't use Amazon for my gift, b/c I'm supporting X cause."
  
  I don't think that particularly obligates the gift giver to follow those things, but I would try to honor the request if someone said something like that.
  
  ETA:  And if gift giver doesn't ask, I don't think giftee should pipe up with this either.

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