Everyone( friends, some of my family) Keeps telling me my estimated head count for the rehearsal dinner is too big.
Father of the Groom is paying for it, we have not discussed size or budget yet. (Doing that tonight)
I made a draft guest list to use when we go over things with the Father of the Groom.
The thing is I have a large Immediate family.
Bride + 18 People ( Parents, siblings, there spouses & children, some of which are in the wedding party)
The Grooms Family is smaller..
Groom + 3 (Dad, 2 Sisters of groom ( neither or married or have kids)
Also + 4 to include the ring bearers family which is on the groom's side
then non Family wedding party 4 people
So we are at a subtotal of
19(Bride Side) + 8 (groom side) + 4 wedding party Friends = 31 guests
Here is the catch, I am assuming the Father of the grooms is going to want to invite all of their extended family, who are ALL from out of state, so it would be polite to include them, which I have no problem with I love them all, (15 more people) but that guest us up to 44 people.
Our wedding is 115.
We are going to ask the Father of the groom he wants to be invited this evening. I just feel guilty that my side is so big.
I don't want to ask too much of him, but I can't change the size of my family.
44 seems pretty big. The people on the list are not the problem, I am just concerned by the number.
I am also willing to handling all the planning, it is going to be at the wedding venue. Food cost estimated to be 1500 (for the 44, assuming he wants to invite everyone) not including drinks.
The cost seems reasonable to me, What do you think?