Earn cash as you plan. Get a $20 gift card for every 200 points with The Knot Rewards
Wedding Woes
CharmedPam
member
Paczki Tuesday
If yesterday was double shot coffee - today is double donut day.
eta: I know. I know. A Paczki isn’t just a donut.
Re: Paczki Tuesday
We are out of treatment options for mom. It's now supportive/comfort care. We're all still processing. Not sure when mom will be sprung from the hospital. There's some coordination and training for my dad that needs to happen. So...yeah. That's about the size of it. They said up to 6 months, but we'll see what happens when she goes home. I'm still gaming when I put in a leave request. I have counseling on Thursday, thankfully.
We have wonderful friends and family who are asking what they can do. DefConn is ridiculously emotionally intelligent and has empathy in spades. We had quite the discussion, led by his questions, last night. His other amazing quality is that he knows his limit and when he's taken in 'enough' information for him. So after we talked and had our tears, he wanted to snuggle in our bed and watch mindless TV while we had some gummy bears.
It sounds like you're processing this as "well" as you can and with some serious logistics in mind. I know DH's cousins went through this 2.5 years ago with his aunt who passed from ovarian cancer. With 9 kids and FIL as one of the other 4 siblings they often found that simply mass emails were the ways to keep people in the loop without having to answer the same questions from the rest of us who may be well-intentioned but who who weren't the first people to ask the same thing that day.
It isn't fair and I hope you're doing as well as can be expected. Many hugs to you and your family.
*****
I'm hoping I am over the latest cold. I have an odd feeling when I blow my nose on the left side and get a slight pain near my ear. Weird.
King cake dough is rising now. In one hour I roll it out and cross my fingers in the hopes that I didn't muck it up. I had to add flour once I threw the dough out of the bowl because that was some sticky stuff that just would not come together. After a few dustings the dough went from something I'd throw at an enemy to a cohesive ball that is rising.
We've had some issues recently with Chiquita and she's seeing the school social worker. I think I'm going to rig the cake so she gets the baby.
@mrsconn23 oh jeez
So I saw this article about a mom who named her kid Andrew but hates nickname Andy and kid is now 7 - she is going into the school and complaining to the teacher about referring to him as Andy.
https://www.boredpanda.com/crazy-mom-child-name-andrew/
Now, 2 questions
Self - are there any nicknames of your name you hate?
With Kids - is there any nicknames you're hoping don't happen for your kid?
Myself, there isn't many nicknames for my name considering it is considered a nickname. {even though it's my legal name}
For BabyKitten - little bit of info. Her name is Michelle. Tbh only nickname I really hope she doesn't get is Shelley/Shelly. I know someone named it, and it works. Idk if it's a nickname, but general sense I'm not a fan of that as a nickname.
If later she goes by that, I'll ask if she's ok with me calling her something else. {which I hope she is}
If any nickname, I'm hoping something along the lines of Mickey.
Why? Because family history.
My poppa {dad's dad} was named Gerald but nicknamed Mick. My dad's name was Michael after him.
Michelle is obv named after my dad. So hence my hope for Mickey if she wants a nickname.
I mean in the article the mom talked to the teacher and teacher agreed to make a note to not and mention it.
Kids kept calling him "Andy" and kid would also say his name is "Andy" so mom is pissy about that now.
Hope you feel better, that your king cake turns out well, and that Chiquita finds the baby
MKD- my name is katherine and I don't mind any nickname except Kathy. My mom and her side of the family has always called me Kate. I used to hate it but now I love it. My old friends call me Katie, people here call me Katherine or Katty (which I think they might be calling me Kathy but with the accent it sounds like Kat-ty and I like it, lol). DS is Jacob. We picked it thinking we would call him Jake but don't yet. A guy who works at the stable calls him Jakey and it doesn't bother me at all.
We had a nice Monday. It was DDs official birthday and she had a great day at school and enjoyed the cupcakes I sent in with her friends. She is also transitioning into Preschool, so I hope that helps her. I think this class stops forcing the kids to lay on mats at naptime, but gives them the option to sit quietly at the table and read. H was at karate, so DD stayed up until he got home. We all went up to put her to bed and her last present from Mom & Dad was there waiting for her! It was a book, some clothes and new booties! She was very happy with them! She is wearing the booties today too! This morning she asked me if it was her birthday again. I told her she had to wait until next year - her mouth dropped open! LOL!
Most people call me by my full name. Its also how I sign emails, letters and introduce myself. But my immediate family, H, close friends and some co-workers call me by the shortened version of my name - which I do answer to and have no problems being called by. MKD - if you want BabyKitten's nickname to be Mickey, just start calling her that. Usually nicknames are given to people by their families and it just continues into adulthood where they can decide to keep the nickname for everyday or start to use their full name "professionally" if they prefer.
My username is because kids in the kinder and under age call me Kitty.
@MissKittyDanger, yes! I saw free pancakes at ihop yesterday for today. Forgot about that!
My mom’s name is Katherine, but everyone called her Kathy. She moved to TN and became Mrs. Kate. It’s still hard to get used to that one. My sister’s eldest is also Katherine, named after her grandma, our mom. But we call her Katie. I suspect she’ll want that changed once she reaches a certain age. 7 now. She knows if she’s called Katherine she’s in trouble though!
Fun fact, Starbucks has made the most interesting versions of my name.
Kaitie is my fave - my name is already mostly vowels and somehow they found a way to make more
@mrsconn23 hugs to you. I pray that your mom is kept comfortable and doesn't suffer much during this ordeal. Yes cancer sucks - went through this with my mom. I'm so sorry you are going through this.
Best vibes being sent from Long Island to the Midwest -
@mrsconn sending all the love to you and your family. F cancer. Big time. DefConn is such a special kid
@CharmedPam just catching up from yesterday, sending you all the love too. It was really brave of you to take this step and also to share it here. I hope there's lots of happiness and peace in your future.
@CharmedPam, I saw your posts from yesterday and am really impressed you started your own support group, when you saw there was a need! I'm glad you are in therapy and that it is still helping you. Hopefully your current therapist will be still be in-network when you switch health plans. As an aside, "in/out" network, smh. Yet more stupidity in our current private insurance healthcare system (eyeroll).
@banana468, good luck with the king cake!
@MissKittyDanger, the only Michelle(s) I've known were always called their full name, Michelle. I have a good friend named Shelley, but that is her legal first name. But, yeah, if you all don't use the nickname Shelly, I doubt that will be a nickname she gets. On the other hand, if you all like the nickname Mickey and call her that, that's probably a nickname she'll at least keep through childhood.
In re: to your Starbucks story. My local Wendy's has the same creativity with my name, lol. It's Jenny. And I even spell it like that, the most traditional way. But they often use a "G" instead of a "J". Using one or two "N"s is random. "I"s are sometimes thrown in and those are random along with the number of and placement of the "E"s. How they spell my name is always an adventure, lol!
Happy Mardi Gras everyone! Though I have not been very Mardi Gras at all today, lol. I shouldn't jinx myself because the day isn't quite over. But my 4-day weekend turned out AWESOME! I ran a few errands when I got off work on Friday. But, when I got home, I haven't left it even once, lol. I know I sound like a hermit, but that was exactly what I wanted. Just to finally have 4 days of no responsibilities or errands. I needed milk and a few other groceries. Even for that I used Amazon Prime 2-hour delivery and had my groceries delivered to me, lol. I wanted fried chicken yesterday and there is a great place that is walking distance. I suggested to my H that we walk over there and get some. He offered to go himself. Me: "Okay, thanks." And even the chicken I wanted was delivered by my H. It's been a pretty gratuitous weekend, lol.
But I go back to work tomorrow and, except for parade throw remnants in the trees and littering the streets lol, life also goes back to normal. At least it will be a short work week. That's the double goodness of a long weekend, lol.
Edited to add. We more typically call today the French words, Mardi Gras down here. But it's also not unusual to hear the English words, Fat Tuesday.
We're normally a seafood-crazy city anyway but, with Lent starting tomorrow, the seafood emphasis REALLY goes into high gear. Practically every restaurant has "Lenten specials", which are seafood specials. Even national fast food places start advertising and having specials on their fish sandwiches.
I've decided to take tomorrow off. I'm going to a drag show tonight, so that when the clock strikes midnight, everyone can tell me how much they love and adore me and buy me drinks. Not shots, I can't do that shit anymore, I'm 43 now, y'all. Then tomorrow, I'm going to At Home and Ulta, and seeing a showing of Two Towers: Extended Edition for my birthday gift to myself. Favorite book, favorite character, and favorite movie of the trilogy, ALL FOR ME. Oh, it's my birthday tomorrow, in case I didn't make that clear.
Other than that, SSDD, with me cursing my bosses' names and exposed inefficiency. So tired of some of the BS at work, but I like money and am yet to be independently wealthy,so here we are.