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levioosa · April 2020

Good morning everyone. I hope you all had good weekends. Our weekend was pretty good. I had an epiphany on Saturday. I’ve been trying so hard to be “productive” when I get home. But it’s been really taxing. Last week was so difficult. I finally gave myself permission to just relax. The cleaning will still be there later. I can organize at a different date. I haven’t been being fair to myself by trying to force “productivity” during the last few weeks. Nothing about life is normal and that’s okay. I hope I can keep the clarity.

But FI and I had a really good weekend of just enjoying each other’s company and just being. It was nice.

And omg. My director got fired on Friday. Not furloughed. Fired. I feel so relieved (and a little guilty for feeling that way). I don’t think it changes my current job security situation at all, but I don’t feel that constant state of dread over her calling or texting or showing up. I’m really happy for my manager. She got the brunt of it, with angry calls and texts at all hours of the day and night. I’m sure she feels so much better now.

CharmedPam · April 2020

Glad you had some relaxation time @levioosa. I think I’m guilty of to much of that! Lol. I need to do more productive stuff. How do you get to a happy medium?

I introduced my family to houseparty and I think they like it! Friday night I played some jack tv games with my friend and all his friends. And Saturday night my aunt, mom and dad (in separate rooms in the house) and I played some houseparty games with drinks for 5 hours.

Sunday, it was a bit chaotic bit we got my nieces (sister) and nephews (brother) and grandpa and grandma on the phone and Im not sure if my brother and sister in law WANTED my oldest nephew to say this or not - but he was in a mood (sugar high) said “Im not going to them mommy has a baby in her tummy. I’m not!”
We all thought it was an imaginative 3 year old just talking but my brother and sister in law confirmed it. AND the due date is October 31st. The best day in the world!

climbingsingle · April 2020

@levioosa wow about the director!!

Had a mostly relaxing weekend. Friday we cooked and caught up on Stumptown. It's a really good show!
Saturday we took the dogs hiking at 5am. I then cleaned the house and did laundry. And then not much. I had a few glasses of wine, we sat outside for a little bit.
Yesterday I had plans to cook, but I really didn't feel like it..haha. So, we ordered pizza and watched TV. How To Fix a Drug Scandal on Netflix is good!

We're in the middle of a crazy rain/wind storm right now. I'll be shocked if a tree doesn't go down. Right now I'm just doing all the cooking I had planned on doing yesterday. Up first - deviled eggs.

kvruns · April 2020

How fun about the baby news @CharmedPam makes me chuckle about the kid although i feel like if you tell a kid that age something it is bound to be told to the world.

@levioosa wow! That's great news for you and your manager. Hopefully things get better there as a result.

I just watched Unorthodox on Netflix - has anyone else watched it?

climbingsingle · April 2020

@kvruns Yes, I watched that too! I live in the next town over from a very large Satmar community, so I found it very interesting. It was so good.

OliveOilsMom · April 2020

Levioosa - I know your job situation isn't great right now, but at least this will make your stress level at work lower. And yes, make sure you relax! I find the doing dishes or something semi small in the mornings a few times a week helps! There is less to do in the evenings!

Chamed - Congrats! Such great news to have another niece/nephew to love!

We had a nice Easter and unproductive long weekend. We had a small project that H wanted to do, but we never got around to doing it! We also got in a family nap time on Saturday. Those are few and far between with DD refusing naps lately!

Sunday we got dressed up. DD in her Easter dress and me in my wedding gown! DD thought it was hilarious! I wore it for the egg hunt in the back yard and while watching Mass from the couch. We had a Zoom breakfast with MIL and SIL. Then we went out to see MIL and my parents from their yards. We had a stuffed pork loin that I air fried using the rotisserie option. It was sooooo good! Later on we had a Zoom dessert with my family.

H is on spring break, though has a few small work things to do. But I'm back to work. They did officially extend my WFH until the end of April.

MyNameIsNot · April 2020

Pretty good weekend here. Friday we had a virtual happy hour with one of my friend groups. It was really great to "see" everyone and just socialize. One of our friends shared that her husband just took a job in Miami, so they'll be moving. We kind of knew it was coming; now it's official. We'll miss her, but I'm excited to go visit. (It's H's home town, so we go regularly anyway.) It looks like they'll probably move pretty soon, so it doesn't look like we'll get to have a going away party or even see her in real life before they go. I'm disappointed about that.

Saturday was gorgeous, so we went for a long walk, played in the backyard, and had a bonfire. Yesterday was pretty rainy and gross, but we got to watch the storm come in while we did the family easter video chat. Watching my grandmother learn how to use the video chat is the best. She's never even learned how to turn on the vcr, but she's getting really good with the phone.

I'm debating whether to take a couple of vacation days this month. On one hand, it seems stupid to take a stay-cation when all we ever do is stay home anyway, but on the other, I realized I'm getting burnt out with work. Maybe a long weekend would help.

kerbohl · April 2020

Friday night we did a game with friends over the internet. Then Saturday and Sunday was pretty quiet. Hubby and I were both a little bummed yesterday, so we took it easy. Church was weird over the internet - we made a big ado about Easter with a big breakfast and three different services, so it felt very subdued. Today is just same old!

charlotte989875 · April 2020

MyNameIsNot said:

Pretty good weekend here. Friday we had a virtual happy hour with one of my friend groups. It was really great to "see" everyone and just socialize. One of our friends shared that her husband just took a job in Miami, so they'll be moving. We kind of knew it was coming; now it's official. We'll miss her, but I'm excited to go visit. (It's H's home town, so we go regularly anyway.) It looks like they'll probably move pretty soon, so it doesn't look like we'll get to have a going away party or even see her in real life before they go. I'm disappointed about that.

Saturday was gorgeous, so we went for a long walk, played in the backyard, and had a bonfire. Yesterday was pretty rainy and gross, but we got to watch the storm come in while we did the family easter video chat. Watching my grandmother learn how to use the video chat is the best. She's never even learned how to turn on the vcr, but she's getting really good with the phone.

I'm debating whether to take a couple of vacation days this month. On one hand, it seems stupid to take a stay-cation when all we ever do is stay home anyway, but on the other, I realized I'm getting burnt out with work. Maybe a long weekend would help.

I feel the same way; I have a ton of vacation time and I’m feeling burnout but it seems silly to take days off when I’ll just be staying at home but I also wants some days where I’m not worried about work. We might go to Hs land for a few days to get away. We won’t have anyone around for miles and don’t need to stop along the way so even though it’s not essential travel we won’t be putting anyone or ourselves at risk.

charlotte989875 · April 2020

We’re not church people but it still felt like a very weird Easter. My sister dropped us off a butter lamb ice cream cake on Saturday then we drove to MIL/FILs Sunday to say hi from the truck. My Mom also dropped off desserts yesterday afternoon which was really nice. Still a little lonely but better than nothing.

ei34 · April 2020

Glad to hear about the director @levioosa
My Friday night zoom hangout was fun. My niece thoroughly enjoyed her drive-by party on Saturday. Yesterday we had a nice Easter breakfast, the kids enjoyed their baskets, we watched mass on tv like we've been doing all Lent but then drove by church so the kids could leave some flowers from our yard by some of the saint statues. Egg hunt in the yard...dropped off Easter sweet breads with my family and kids waved from the car. The scaled-down dinner was still delicious. Wept along to Andrea Bocelli's concert. Nice enough holiday, all things considered.

We're having intense wind and rain too...power was out from around 5:30 until 11 but it's back now thankfully. I was a bit crazy with "NO ONE OPEN THE FREEZER!" but we made it through.

Casadena · April 2020

kvruns said:

I just watched Unorthodox on Netflix - has anyone else watched it?

I can't wait to start that! I read the book by Deborah Feldman that it's based on/inspired by (both her books are great).

Friday night we Zoomed with one side of H's family and it was nuts. There were probably 20 logins with 40+ ppl. It was nice to see everyone and laugh together though. The other side was Saturday and was a little more chill. Everyone liked seeing the baby since most of them haven't met him yet!

We video chatted with my mom and grandma a bit yesterday and just mostly hung out around the house. The babe was way more into his easter basket than I thought he would be! We put it in his crib and I helped him grab his little toys - he was super focused and definitely knew that it was something unusual in there him

H and I made fancy eggs benedict for brunch and i put together a pasta bake (lazy lasagna) for an early dinner with garlic bread and wine. Nice weekend overall!

short+sassy · April 2020

I did my 2019 taxes on Sat. Started around 6:30PM. Worked on them continuously until I finished at around 10:00PM, smh. AND I still need to finish my SBA application (sigh). I'm worried about what kind of utter dysfunction that is going to be.

In the grand scheme of things, I know this isn't a big deal. But I need to rant at my H anyway, lol. I'm getting so tired of him constantly eating our more expensive food. And not just more expensive, but stuff I have to make special Costco/Sam's trips for. For example, he cooked up an entire tray of Blackened Chicken Alfredo Sat. night. That's something that should normally be cooked when we both want that for dinner. Except I ate a late lunch and wasn't hungry, which he knew. And then he had the leftovers for lunch the very next day. So I got none. As usual.

I even warn him to SPREAD OUT the "good" meals, because I'm really trying to limit how much I go to Sam's/grocery. But does he ever make just a cheaper, ordinary sandwich? No. Y'all, I'm done! No more trips to Sam's club until it's safer and Stay At Home orders are lifted. I'm tired of buying all this food that I like also, but he's a hog and eats 75% of it. So I'm not buying it anymore because a) what's the point? and b) he needs to learn a lesson.

((Rant end, shaking it off))

But overall, except for the taxes and annoyance with my H, it was a relaxing weekend. Though I bought an extra dozen eggs to make egg salad with. And didn't, lol. So that is going to be a task when I get off work today. I mean, I'm still WFH. But am expected to be at my computer, working and available, from 7-5.

banana468 · April 2020

WOW @levioosa! Isn't this the person that you've had issues with for a long time? I hope that's good news for you.

We had a nice weekend. Friday we had a Harry Potter Uno tournament over dinner. It's fun playing with Chiquito and it's a new family favorite. Saturday we did an Easter egg hunt and DH picked up our leg of lamb from the local farm. They arranged it so I paid in advance and they loaded the food in the car without the need to get out. It's nice to support a local business while socially distancing.

Sunday the kids got up FREAKED out that the Bunny didn't come. Turns out that he hid the baskets well and they were bad at finding them. We watched mass in front of the TV, the kids called my ILs (who still don't get that if they keep going out for errands that we won't see them), talked to BIL and SIL over video and then had dinner before my family zoom. It was not the same but still we made the most of it.

ei34 · April 2020

I was fascinated by Unorthodox by Deborah Feldman too...I didn't realize it was on Netflix now but may have to check it out.

Ugh @short+sassy i hear you on the food frustrations. I've continued to do a once a week food shop all masked and gloved up, and it should be enough food (except for fresh produce) for two weeks. But H is eating like the world is ending like he's famished. The kids are guilty too with all the second breakfasts, pre- and post-lunch snaks, etc. but H is the main culprit. On Saturday while i was making dinner he rifled through the basement freezer in his section (microwavable crap food like Hot Pockets, mini pizza bagels, etc) and made himself two Hot Pockets and six chicken taquitos. And ate it as I was setting the table for dinner. Like stop it's wasteful. I said "is that what you're having for dinner?" It wasn't

banana468 · April 2020

I had to yell at DS about the food too.

DH did a Costco run on April 1st so we'd be stocked for a while. Previously Chiquito gnawed through the yogurt tubes like a hungry rat and we had to tell him to stop going into the fridge for snacks. I found FOUR in front of him when I left my office one afternoon. We told him that the trip DH did needs to last us for weeks! We are low on vegetables but have plenty of everything else.! And we can deal with it for now.

Then there are people like my ILs. DH bought FOR them when he went out on the 1st, put it in their garage so there would be limited contact and then 3 freaking days later FIL asks, "Hey I'm headed to the town's smallest grocery store. Do you guys need anything?"

NO. Because we planned to stop going out and stocked up in that last run!

charlotte989875 · April 2020

I’m so angry with my mother I could scream so I’m going to rant here.

She dropped stuff off yesterday, assured us she wasn’t seeing anyone (besides my Dad & my sister- who I know isn’t seeing anyone) and that she wasn’t going anywhere. Not even her sister (lives on the same street, has two kids in college 1 back home, and a high school student) because she’s still going out and about and so are her kids. Like way too much.

So this morning she sends me a picture of her, her sister, and my cousin all standing right next to each other. And she says “well we weren’t touching and I held my breath”.

FFS you’re a nurse, you know thats not how this works!! I get this sucks for everyone but come the eff on!

banana468 · April 2020

charlotte989875 said:

I’m so angry with my mother I could scream so I’m going to rant here.

She dropped stuff off yesterday, assured us she wasn’t seeing anyone (besides my Dad & my sister- who I know isn’t seeing anyone) and that she wasn’t going anywhere. Not even her sister (lives on the same street, has two kids in college 1 back home, and a high school student) because she’s still going out and about and so are her kids. Like way too much.

So this morning she sends me a picture of her, her sister, and my cousin all standing right next to each other. And she says “well we weren’t touching and I held my breath”.

FFS you’re a nurse, you know thats not how this works!! I get this sucks for everyone but come the eff on!

"Well mom, I guess we just won't be seeing you until this is over because you can't be trusted."

My MIL also mentioned to DH that "Maybe we'll do drinks outside at Banana's aunt's house one town over. "

1) Being outside does not make this safe.
2) I do not for one minute think they would stay 6 feet away from each other.
3) If they do this then it cements that we will not be seeing them.

DH is just trying to continue to take the approach that we are socially distancing from them because they aren't from much else. I don't get it.

kerbohl · April 2020

Regarding the food situation, hubby and I did the opposite - we ate all the plain kind of foods first because they were more things like stews that required vegetables that go bad. Now we're getting low on those so we have to break out our stash of premade food. Soon we're going to be eating nothing but chicken nuggets and frozen veggies and canned soup and pasta. I'm trying to hold off grocery store visits for as long as I can, but my two months supply of dog food is getting down to a week's supply, and there's just no way around going shopping for that. I already make my own dog food but supplement with kibble, and making her switch completely to home made might mess her up a bit ...

OliveOilsMom · April 2020

S+S - H and I have rarely fought over the course of our relationship. Even now, its not common. But the first fight we ever did have, was over a similar type of event! I'd be pissed! Don't mess with my "good" food!

levioosa · April 2020

kerbohl said:

Regarding the food situation, hubby and I did the opposite - we ate all the plain kind of foods first because they were more things like stews that required vegetables that go bad. Now we're getting low on those so we have to break out our stash of premade food. Soon we're going to be eating nothing but chicken nuggets and frozen veggies and canned soup and pasta. I'm trying to hold off grocery store visits for as long as I can, but my two months supply of dog food is getting down to a week's supply, and there's just no way around going shopping for that. I already make my own dog food but supplement with kibble, and making her switch completely to home made might mess her up a bit ...

We’re running out of fresh fruits/veggies. Tbh we could honestly probably make it another 1-2 months if we purely lived on what we already have in the house and if we were careful about it. But we’re pretty much done with the fresh stuff. I do have some frozen veggies but those just aren’t the same when you cook them.

charlotte989875 · April 2020

banana468 said:

charlotte989875 said:

I’m so angry with my mother I could scream so I’m going to rant here.

She dropped stuff off yesterday, assured us she wasn’t seeing anyone (besides my Dad & my sister- who I know isn’t seeing anyone) and that she wasn’t going anywhere. Not even her sister (lives on the same street, has two kids in college 1 back home, and a high school student) because she’s still going out and about and so are her kids. Like way too much.

So this morning she sends me a picture of her, her sister, and my cousin all standing right next to each other. And she says “well we weren’t touching and I held my breath”.

FFS you’re a nurse, you know thats not how this works!! I get this sucks for everyone but come the eff on!

"Well mom, I guess we just won't be seeing you until this is over because you can't be trusted."

My MIL also mentioned to DH that "Maybe we'll do drinks outside at Banana's aunt's house one town over. "

1) Being outside does not make this safe.
2) I do not for one minute think they would stay 6 feet away from each other.
3) If they do this then it cements that we will not be seeing them.

DH is just trying to continue to take the approach that we are socially distancing from them because they aren't from much else. I don't get it.

It sucks but this is what our next approach has to be since she can’t be responsible. It doesn’t matter if it was 5 minutes or 5 hours you can’t be around other people.

Honestly it just feels selfish to me. I get she wanted to see people around the holiday, and that it’s been really hard, but now we won’t be able to see her at all, even from a safe distance.

CharmedPam · April 2020

levioosa said:

kerbohl said:

Regarding the food situation, hubby and I did the opposite - we ate all the plain kind of foods first because they were more things like stews that required vegetables that go bad. Now we're getting low on those so we have to break out our stash of premade food. Soon we're going to be eating nothing but chicken nuggets and frozen veggies and canned soup and pasta. I'm trying to hold off grocery store visits for as long as I can, but my two months supply of dog food is getting down to a week's supply, and there's just no way around going shopping for that. I already make my own dog food but supplement with kibble, and making her switch completely to home made might mess her up a bit ...

We’re running out of fresh fruits/veggies. Tbh we could honestly probably make it another 1-2 months if we purely lived on what we already have in the house and if we were careful about it. But we’re pretty much done with the fresh stuff. I do have some frozen veggies but those just aren’t the same when you cook them.

This is me! All fresh foods (and I live for fruit!) is gone, but I’m still getting 6 fresh meals delivered a week with my meal kit boxes. So in between I can use my frozen stuff and I should be good for a little while longer.

MyNameIsNot · April 2020

@kerbohl Do you ever use Chewy? I've still been getting our pets' food through them since all of this hit. It's slower than the normal 2 days, but food comes within 4-5 days, so I can time it to not have to go out for food.

kerbohl · April 2020

@MyNameIsNot I have not heard of Chewy ... I will check them out. That might be a good solution! Thanks!

banana468 · April 2020

charlotte989875 said:

banana468 said:

charlotte989875 said:

I’m so angry with my mother I could scream so I’m going to rant here.

She dropped stuff off yesterday, assured us she wasn’t seeing anyone (besides my Dad & my sister- who I know isn’t seeing anyone) and that she wasn’t going anywhere. Not even her sister (lives on the same street, has two kids in college 1 back home, and a high school student) because she’s still going out and about and so are her kids. Like way too much.

So this morning she sends me a picture of her, her sister, and my cousin all standing right next to each other. And she says “well we weren’t touching and I held my breath”.

FFS you’re a nurse, you know thats not how this works!! I get this sucks for everyone but come the eff on!

"Well mom, I guess we just won't be seeing you until this is over because you can't be trusted."

My MIL also mentioned to DH that "Maybe we'll do drinks outside at Banana's aunt's house one town over. "

1) Being outside does not make this safe.
2) I do not for one minute think they would stay 6 feet away from each other.
3) If they do this then it cements that we will not be seeing them.

DH is just trying to continue to take the approach that we are socially distancing from them because they aren't from much else. I don't get it.

It sucks but this is what our next approach has to be since she can’t be responsible. It doesn’t matter if it was 5 minutes or 5 hours you can’t be around other people.

Honestly it just feels selfish to me. I get she wanted to see people around the holiday, and that it’s been really hard, but now we won’t be able to see her at all, even from a safe distance.

That's where we are with DH's parents.

I get that FIL needs to be busy and cannot sit still. I get that he's social. I get that they were in the middle of a kitchen renovation.

But if you continue to leave the house to pick up paint, to pick up stuff for your kitchen, to go get more food because you felt like something else to eat and you're going into a store vs. a touchless system and you're doing it weekly or multiple times weekly you don't get it.

My aunt (the one they may have cocktails with) is the same. If they continue to go shopping once a week and keep doing take out from their friends then they're continually exposing themselves.

I know FIL is going to go stir crazy and lament where his retirement savings are. I get it. It's frustrating to feel like what you had you don't and you want it back.

But if physicians with a great understanding of this are saying that we need to stay put then you need to trust that expertise and stop complaining. You'll feel differently if you find out that someone you know and love is hurting or worse if you're alone with your bigger wallet.

ILoveBeachMusic · April 2020

Yesterday was ok. The grandsons arrived on Saturday with SIL. We had an Easter Egg Hunt inside the house and in our yard. They loved it and are constantly playing with the plastic eggs. DD started in the Covid Unit on Saturday. She said it was really exhausting the hardest part being talking to families. She misses her boys and they miss her. We FaceTimed with her to day. GS2 started crying when we said good bye. It just broke my heart. He didn't cry for long though. All in all they are adjusting well. I'm not getting anything done during the day because I'm watching the boys (along with H of course). SIL is working remotely as is DS2. It is nice to have people here though. DS2 is enjoying being home and not totally alone in his apartment. I think he also likes the home cooked meals. We ordered carry out for Easter dinner and it was pretty good. I had baked a cake (my birthday was Saturday and H's bday is tomorrow) and made homemade dinner rolls. It was good. Now I'm catching up on the Knot, email and Italian!

ei34 · April 2020

Happy belated birthday @ILoveBeachMusic !

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