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Help me decide the venue!

Hi guys! We are down to 2 venue choices - our backyard or a hall in the local town. My absolute wedding dream is dancing under the stars and ending the night with a bonfire (he proposed during a bonfire). However, both our wallets much prefer the indoor hall. He also would prefer not to have the added stress of doing landscaping projects, which I personally don't mind doing/hiring people.

Expected guest count to be around 200. It will take place in mid-June in Michigan.

I am going to word vomit all of my thoughts below - and PLEASE give me any feedback especially about things I may not have thought about. Bear with me as this is L-O-N-G.

Outdoor - Picture this, 30 tables and chairs along with dance floor are set up on a grassy flat area of the yard with large mature trees surrounding 2 sides. 1 side of the reception area is directly adjacent to the back deck which will house the bar along with cocktail tables. Nearby, there is a large bonfire pit and yard games to be played. Restroom trailer will be set up halfway between bonfire and reception areas. Catering folks will have access to our kitchen which is directly off from our back deck. Parking will be located about 100 yards away with some closer VIP parking for wedding party/elderly. The plan is to have overflow parking on the road and also politely ask neighbors if we can use a portion of their yard for overflow. Our yard should be sufficient, however in the case that uninvited people show up after dinner (common in our area).. we want to be prepared.

Now, this requires us to have a tent rental on standby for rain (~$1500 if used), bathroom trailer ($900), rent tables ($405)/chairs ($400)/linens($450), lighting, dance floor 15x15 ($370). I was thinking about having a day-of coordinator since there are more variables to think about vs the indoor venue and to take some stress off my family/bridal party - this is something I haven't checked prices on yet.

Finally, something else we have to consider is yard work/projects. We were already planning on replacing our deck this year, but I would like to do some additional landscaping and plant new grass in some areas where we've cut down trees/grinded stumps. We will put in a new fire pit area complete with landscaping pavers. I should be able to recruit help with these projects from my family. But this is where it becomes overwhelming for him. I am budgeting $5000 for these things. And, these are projects that would eventually have to be completed anyways.

Indoor - Indoor hall with cathedral ceilings with enough room to hold 360 people. We have access to free tables, chairs, and linens. There is a bar area set up. Kitchen is available for the caterer. There is nothing too crazy special about this place, but it is nice and fairly newer. I will be asking the venue coordinator if he would allow us to have a bonfire behind the building along with some string lights outdoors. We know him, and he knows us.. I don't see this being an issue as long as we have an attendant near the fire.

The venue itself costs $1500.

Recap - So outdoor venue is everything I could dream of, but will come at the cost of added stress and thinner wallets (about $4000 more + cost of outdoor projects + day of coordinator). Indoor venue, is nice and includes everything we need aside from vendors.

So what do you think? Help me work through this. My heart says outdoor, but my mind (and FI) says indoor!

Re: Help me decide the venue!

  • Hi guys! We are down to 2 venue choices - our backyard or a hall in the local town. My absolute wedding dream is dancing under the stars and ending the night with a bonfire (he proposed during a bonfire). However, both our wallets much prefer the indoor hall. He also would prefer not to have the added stress of doing landscaping projects, which I personally don't mind doing/hiring people.

    Expected guest count to be around 200. It will take place in mid-June in Michigan.

    I am going to word vomit all of my thoughts below - and PLEASE give me any feedback especially about things I may not have thought about. Bear with me as this is L-O-N-G.

    Outdoor - Picture this, 30 tables and chairs along with dance floor are set up on a grassy flat area of the yard with large mature trees surrounding 2 sides. 1 side of the reception area is directly adjacent to the back deck which will house the bar along with cocktail tables. Nearby, there is a large bonfire pit and yard games to be played. Restroom trailer will be set up halfway between bonfire and reception areas. Catering folks will have access to our kitchen which is directly off from our back deck. Parking will be located about 100 yards away with some closer VIP parking for wedding party/elderly. The plan is to have overflow parking on the road and also politely ask neighbors if we can use a portion of their yard for overflow. Our yard should be sufficient, however in the case that uninvited people show up after dinner (common in our area).. we want to be prepared.

    Now, this requires us to have a tent rental on standby for rain (~$1500 if used), bathroom trailer ($900), rent tables ($405)/chairs ($400)/linens($450), lighting, dance floor 15x15 ($370). I was thinking about having a day-of coordinator since there are more variables to think about vs the indoor venue and to take some stress off my family/bridal party - this is something I haven't checked prices on yet.

    Finally, something else we have to consider is yard work/projects. We were already planning on replacing our deck this year, but I would like to do some additional landscaping and plant new grass in some areas where we've cut down trees/grinded stumps. We will put in a new fire pit area complete with landscaping pavers. I should be able to recruit help with these projects from my family. But this is where it becomes overwhelming for him. I am budgeting $5000 for these things. And, these are projects that would eventually have to be completed anyways.

    Indoor - Indoor hall with cathedral ceilings with enough room to hold 360 people. We have access to free tables, chairs, and linens. There is a bar area set up. Kitchen is available for the caterer. There is nothing too crazy special about this place, but it is nice and fairly newer. I will be asking the venue coordinator if he would allow us to have a bonfire behind the building along with some string lights outdoors. We know him, and he knows us.. I don't see this being an issue as long as we have an attendant near the fire.

    The venue itself costs $1500.

    Recap - So outdoor venue is everything I could dream of, but will come at the cost of added stress and thinner wallets (about $4000 more + cost of outdoor projects + day of coordinator). Indoor venue, is nice and includes everything we need aside from vendors.

    So what do you think? Help me work through this. My heart says outdoor, but my mind (and FI) says indoor!

    Well, if I ever find myself split between two things and my partner wants one, that's what we go with. It's his wedding as much as yours, so downplaying his preference is really unfair. 

    That said, I'd go with indoor. An at home event is a lot of work, liability and expense. Plus there's the added risk of weather. Maybe a tent will serve if there's a light rain shower, but no tent can protect you from real storms or heat. $5k for putting in a new deck, landscaping and fire pit seems to be on the lower side, and you can't expect people to do the work for you. It also sounds like your parking plan assumes that neighbors will let you park in their yards. If you were talking about 30 people, making the backyard work would be lovely, but for 200 people, you need a venue. 
  • ei34ei34 member
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    Beginning with "restroom trailer", working through overflow parking on neighbors' lawns and continuing through costs, I'd 100% go with the indoor venue.  I hope that the hall venue would permit a bonfire though, that'd be a nice compromise.  I love the vibe of a backyard wedding, but only when the guest list is like 20-30 people, tops.  
  • Zero question... Indoor!!!!  Then retire to your back yard for the bonfire at the end of the night but not too late with you/FI...  
  • 100% indoors. I have visions of my ideal summer/fall evening kind of outdoor party, but the number of days per year that actually facilitate that ideal (not too hot or too cold, not rainy, not muggy, etc.) are really not that many. Add in the cost and extra work and liability, and I'm pushed way towards indoors.

    Also, if I were your neighbor, I wouldn't want people parking in my yard. I would imagine at least some (most) of your neighbors feel the same way.

    Then there's the part where your FI doesn't want the extra work and expense, for super valid reasons, and it's his wedding/marriage/finances too. That alone would be the deciding factor for me.
  • I'm on Team Indoors. Your FI would prefer not to be saddled with the extra work and costs of an outdoor wedding, and your neighbors won't appreciate any parking in their yard. The choice is clear.

    MesmrEwe said:
    Zero question... Indoor!!!!  Then retire to your back yard for the bonfire at the end of the night but not too late with you/FI...  
    <3 this idea.
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