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Well it’s Wednesday

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I have a marathon day of meetings including performance reviews with my team today. I feel like reviews during Covid should just be “did you try and make it to work most days?” Yes? Okay that’s good enough. If I can get through today and tomorrow with reviews then those are the last big things on my plate before leave! 

How’s everyone else doing?
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  • cupcait927cupcait927 member
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    @charlotte989875 good luck with the reviews! 

    I'm so incredibly busy at work. After weeks of no motivation, I finally buckled down yesterday and made a to-do list. I downloaded an app on my phone to help keep me focused and it seems to have helped. I got more done yesterday than I have in awhile, but my to do list keeps growing. At least I feel more organized. 
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    banana468 said:
    charlotte989875 said:
    I have a marathon day of meetings including performance reviews with my team today. I feel like reviews during Covid should just be “did you try and make it to work most days?” Yes? Okay that’s good enough. If I can get through today and tomorrow with reviews then those are the last big things on my plate before leave! 

    How’s everyone else doing?
    "Did you shower?  Did you try?" 

    Then again, I think I've worked more hours since this began due to our increased demand.    But an expectation of things to happen immediately is definitely not going to happen when I have shorter coworkers that need peanut butter sandwiches. 
    Exactly! I feel like my team has worked more hours due to recession-related work. I do have one guy whose wife is a nurse and has a 4yo and an 11mo so he worked a flex schedule (nights/weekends) and I made sure to write in his review that he had demands on his time and schedule above and beyond what he normally would and still met (and in some cases exceeded) expectations. I felt like it was important to document that he was doing the same or more with less time/ recourses/ whatever. 
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    Again with the shock. Apparently, my small city in MO has like...local Dems or something in charge?  B/c right after the mask ordinance passed unanimously, the school district announced a plan for hybrid in person/virtual teaching.  This is what I wanted for various reasons, so I'm happy to see this.  Now, to see what the actual in person plan looks like, b/c there is going to be a class/income split on this that is also a geographic split in this city.  

    I've been trying to get through to the therapist I used to see and not having much luck.  It's through a rather large clinic and the line is just busy all the time.  And no way to contact them online.  :/

    Otherwise, SSDD at work/home.  K is out of town tonight to take their boards first thing in the am tomorrow!  Fingers crossed, but I'm truly not worried, all of their predictor tests have been a "pass".  I'm going to grab dinner and eat at a friend's house tonight.
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    It's mom's bday, so I had a pretty good cry last night and then woke up crying this morning.  I better-ish, but it's still a tough day.  

    I'm here until noon and then I'm heading to my sister's house.  BIL is going to watch the kids while we go to a few wineries to have a little celebration for mom.  We're all ending up at the ball fields tonight to watch my nephew play.  

    Now Starbucks, Walmart, and Best Buy are requiring masks all the time.  DH said they've stepped up their protocols at his job.  I still think we're not getting a national mask mandate any time soon.  
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    charlotte989875 said:
    I have a marathon day of meetings including performance reviews with my team today. I feel like reviews during Covid should just be “did you try and make it to work most days?” Yes? Okay that’s good enough. If I can get through today and tomorrow with reviews then those are the last big things on my plate before leave! 

    How’s everyone else doing?
    Yay for getting checking off the last few things and getting close!
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    CharmedPam said:
    Hugs to you @mrsconn23, have a good time at the wineries. Sounds like the perfect celebration.
    i got an email about the Starbucks mask thing, since Im a member, @VarunaTT, but didnt know of the others.  In IL it was always like that.  Even down in Southern IL where they’re like “covidwhat?”

    OMG, DH's family in central IL (Peoria area) are ridic.  His cousin posted a rant Sunday over the fact that the Casey's in their bumfuck town made him put on a mask.  But they all act bumpkin and like their little town is the center of the world, so it's not surprising coming from him. 
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    Good luck with reviews @charlotte989875

    *hugs* @mrsconn23

    @VarunaTT good vibes for K!

    I’m hoping to get caught up at work today. I was so dead yesterday but somehow after work FSIL and I were able to do an 8 mile hike and even beat our usual times. I drugged myself with zzquil last night so I’m a little tired but overall I feel way better than yesterday. I hope I can get out of work a little early today. It would be nice to spend some time with FI. 

    I’m honestly just waiting until our whole state shuts down again. If it’s going to happen I think it will happen by the end of the week or Monday by the latest. It’s gotten pretty bad over here. 


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    charlotte989875 said:
    I have a marathon day of meetings including performance reviews with my team today. I feel like reviews during Covid should just be “did you try and make it to work most days?” Yes? Okay that’s good enough. If I can get through today and tomorrow with reviews then those are the last big things on my plate before leave! 

    How’s everyone else doing?
    Good luck! 

    VarunaTT said:
    Again with the shock. Apparently, my small city in MO has like...local Dems or something in charge?  B/c right after the mask ordinance passed unanimously, the school district announced a plan for hybrid in person/virtual teaching.  This is what I wanted for various reasons, so I'm happy to see this.  Now, to see what the actual in person plan looks like, b/c there is going to be a class/income split on this that is also a geographic split in this city.  

    I've been trying to get through to the therapist I used to see and not having much luck.  It's through a rather large clinic and the line is just busy all the time.  And no way to contact them online.  :/

    Otherwise, SSDD at work/home.  K is out of town tonight to take their boards first thing in the am tomorrow!  Fingers crossed, but I'm truly not worried, all of their predictor tests have been a "pass".  I'm going to grab dinner and eat at a friend's house tonight.
    Wishing K good luck!

    mrsconn23 said:
    It's mom's bday, so I had a pretty good cry last night and then woke up crying this morning.  I better-ish, but it's still a tough day.  

    I'm here until noon and then I'm heading to my sister's house.  BIL is going to watch the kids while we go to a few wineries to have a little celebration for mom.  We're all ending up at the ball fields tonight to watch my nephew play.  

    Now Starbucks, Walmart, and Best Buy are requiring masks all the time.  DH said they've stepped up their protocols at his job.  I still think we're not getting a national mask mandate any time soon.  
    I'm so sorry.

    Today is Tax Day. Can't wait for it to be over and for things to settle back down. I wish we were getting a national mask mandate too. But that's just too much to hope for with this "administration."  :/
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    @VarunaTT Good luck to K!

    @Jen4948 You should definitely do something to treat yourself once today is over. 

    @Casadena I have been so nasty to H lately and I think it has a lot to do with being around him 24/7. I am back in the office three days a week but other than that, he's the only other person I see. I need to get it under control!
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    (((hugs))) @mrsconn23 have fun with your sister.
    @Casadena I feel you. DH needs to go somewhere... Or I do. But I miss missing him.

    I have been very grumpy today. It might have something to do with going off my BC a few weeks again. We decided to NPNT and see what happens. I basically just want to get it over with, I hated being pregnant so much. But it won't be any more inconvenient in 2 years than it is now. (I know that sounds horrible but I am very grumpy today)

    Other than that, I was able to preorder some things that aren't advertised as available to preorder by reaching out the seller. This stuff has sold out twice before I even wake up so I am stoked they let me do that.

    The UAE has introduced some sort of laser blood test for covid that takes 5 minutes to get results. They started doing it at the border between Dubai and Abu Dhabi and there was such a surge of people going for the test they had to shut it down, lol. It would be cool if this becomes a reliable test though.

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    That sounds nice @Jen4948 , glad the deadline is finally here
    *hugs* @mrsconn23 good luck @CharmedPam

    SSDD here.  Well a bit spooked.  Semi-on-facebook-more-than-usual-bc-of-the-pandemic nonsense.  But not nonsense.  I have a friend I went to grad school with and later worked with at the same school for two years, until she and her family moved to Florida.  Our oldest children are three months apart so we were pregnancy buddies too.  Up by me we've been taking masking and the pandemic seriously from the start, but I guess by her in Florida it was more relaxed, bc she's been having kids' bday parties, was at the gym/restaurants until recently, etc.  A couple NY friends would comment "hey, be careful" or "mask it up girl" like partially in jest but actually, come on get with it.  I didn't comment, would just scroll on.  The I noticed she had a huge Trumper uncle that started obliterating everyone "This is fake" "#plandemic" "masks are for a-holes" " __friend's name__ man you have a lot of libtard/snowflake/etc friends" and so on.  Curiosity got the best of me, I clicked on his profile once, back in May...located in Arizona, super pro-gun, pro-Trump, anti-immigrant, anti-LGBTQIA, etc.  The works.  Friend just posted an obituary for that very uncle, who died from Covid.  Yikes.  Went back to Uncle's profile and as recent as late-June he was posting "fk masks" "land of the free" etc. at which point his posts stopped.  "Karma's a bitch" is obviously the wrong reaction...I didn't think that...but I did feel..weird. 
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    @ei34 I can't click Love It on that post but I know how you feel. I hope the family is honest and open about what happened to him, maybe his story could help some people with similar views change their mind.
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    @ei34 it's SO HARD.

    DH and I keep talking about this.   We keep saying if you don't want to believe EVERYTHING in the media (and sure, I'll grant that every station has its slant to get you to keep watching) can you at LEAST look at the hospitalization levels and where refrigerated trucks were requested?  Do you think the hospitals that say that they're full are faking and they're playing beer pong in a bunch of empty rooms which is why they say no visitors?  What do you think drives them to say THAT?  

    I am really grateful to live where I do right now where there are a lot of like-minded parents who are doing the same things with the kiddos and their own distancing. 
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    @charlotte989875, good luck getting through the next couple days.  I feel ya!  I've been running myself ragged between my work and personal life.  

    @VarunaTT, good luck to K!

    @mrsconn23, I'm sorry today is extra rough ((hugs)).

    @Jen4948, good luck to you also on a what sounds like a stressful, busy day.  Enjoy your dinner tonight and the weekend is half way here!

    My H was being such a jerk to me last night.  That's unusual for him and I know it just comes from stress, but it didn't make the moment any better.  Here's my rant:

    Let me preface first by saying and joking, "There is good news and bad news going on with our reno right now."  The good news is, we have a contractor who has already done some work for us that is pretty much going to finish up our LAST unit over only the next two weeks.  It would have taken us at least two months to DIY it.  AND, the labor cost is only $7K!!!  Such a great value for what we are getting and shortening our time.  But the bad news?  The labor cost is $7K, lol.  Money I will mostly need to steal from my HELOC which is already about to burst at the seams.

    Which brings us to last night.  My H tells me he needs a check for $3K for this guy, with the balance due on completion.  I ask, "Do we at least have a simple contract between our company and his as to the scope of work for the price of $7K (labor)?  My H (chagrinned), "No."  Me:  "Okay, well then you need to put one together tonight.  For the two of you to sign tomorrow BEFORE you give him this check."  So my H goes to work on that.  He's not upset yet.  He knows the wisdom in my words and I think felt a little embarrassed he hadn't already thought about that.

    At the point where he finishes the scope of work portion, he asks me to come over and give my input.  Make sure he isn't forgetting anything.  He knows better than I would, but it never hurts have a second set of eyes.  I did notice the entry for drywall repair and painting, didn't specifically also include ceilings.  For this kind of work, ceilings are often specifically stated if they are/aren't included.  He tells me it isn't necessary and reads me back the words.  I calmly ask him to please include the words "ceiling" because...  And he cuts me off.  Snaps back at me angrily and says in an almost yelling voice something like, "Fine. Whatever.  I'll add ceilings."

    So then I'm just making sure he's not done with the contract because there's no info yet in regards to the amount, the payments, that it's labor only, blah-blah.  He starts yelling at me again that of course he isn't done.  Why am I bothering him about that.  He'd only asked me to look at the list of work and now I'm criticizing everything else.  I still speak in a calm voice, but call him out, "H, please don't speak to me that way.  I know we have a lot going on right now, but there's no reason for you to be raising your voice like that."  He starts ranting off again as to why he's mad.  I wait for him to finish.  Don't say another word.  Just give him a sad, disappointed look and go back to the living room couch (which is next to a mostly open wall to the room he is in).  That was about it.  He didn't apologize or say anything else either.  But he was calmed down and back to speaking normally the next time he said something.

    It's okay and I'm mostly over it now.  Just frustrating and ridiculous that he asks me to come over and give my opinion but, when I do, he gets mad at me.

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    Our city has 2 major hospital systems.  One of them has not dealt well with the covid crisis at all, furloughing and laying off workers on all levels.  The other one, the CEO has been named as one of the top CEOs in the country in dealing with the crisis and hasn't laid off anyone.  He ordered a 51 bed, ward style hospital floor to be built in February, pushed and finished the build in 31 days, and found a business to pay for the entire thing.  And today, that hospital system is opening that floor b/c the surges happening in surrounding areas are overwhelming those small healthcare systems who are sending them here and taking up hospital resources.

    I finally got through to my old therapist office and am waiting for a call back.  What a damn world this is right now.

    ETA:  The new software still doesn't work properly for me.  I think the IT for the software is fighting with the IT for my office and they're both cc-ing me on the fight b/c it's about my stuff not working.  This is kind of awesome.

    ETA2:  They're definitely fighting over my email.  This is highly entertaining.
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    Damn @short+sassy I’d be pissed about that, too. Do you think he was upset that he didn’t think to write out the contract and needed you to tell him why it needed to be done?
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    charlotte989875 said:
    Damn @short+sassy I’d be pissed about that, too. Do you think he was upset that he didn’t think to write out the contract and needed you to tell him why it needed to be done?
    Yeah, I think it's just misplaced embarrassment. Doesn't excuse it, but I see it (and honestly do it) plenty.
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    flantastic said:
    charlotte989875 said:
    Damn @short+sassy I’d be pissed about that, too. Do you think he was upset that he didn’t think to write out the contract and needed you to tell him why it needed to be done?
    Yeah, I think it's just misplaced embarrassment. Doesn't excuse it, but I see it (and honestly do it) plenty.
    The thought occurred to me also.  But that's not his normal MO and usually appreciates when I think of something he didn't.  And vice versa.  I think it's more it's just an extra stressful time for us right now and it's getting to him also.

    I'm the one who sets up the rental ads.  Handles the questions and sets up the showings.  Handles most of the application/references process.  But he's the one who does all the showings...while he's also at that location (different unit) doing rehab/construction work.  So it's an extra full plate for both of us!
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