my fiance and I got engaged for about a week now, and within this week I've asked my two sisters and lifelong friend to be my bridesmaids. I always dreamed of having a small bridal party, with my closest people. My fiance has two sisters who are 8 and 10 years younger than me. They are 17 and 14, so they feel old enough to be bridesmaids. Yet I am not close to them, everytime we have gotten together, we act like family but after awhile they go dissappear and hang out with their own friends. Because I care for my fiances family I decided I will like to include them and make them still feel special, even if they are not my bridemaids. After much thought, I came up with honorary bridesmaids. I asked them : "I cant marry my soul mate without my soul sisters. Will you be my honorary bridesmaid?" I got them cute hair pieces and jewelry along with popping the question. I also told them as honorary bridesmaids, they will be apart of the planning and are welcome to join in the room at some point in the morning to dress together, also they will be getting our wedding nails done together and making favors with me. They also will walk down the aisle with their own bouquets, after their parents and follow them into the first row to sit. I truly tried to make them feel important, special and beautiful that day. Make them feel happy, and my fiance happy and his family happy. Along with myself happy that I got to still have my few closest ones standing next to me. The third day into our engagement, his family had an uproar. They were so upset and disappointed in me that I picked their daughters to be honorary bridesmaids. His sisters looked up the meaning and said " I'd rather not have done anything at all if she didn't really want me up there. Thats embarrassing. This job is for the black sheep of the bridal party". The family was so upset and basically told my fiance this needs to be fixed. This hurt my feelings and got me really pissed. I tried to get them included and have a special role, yet that wasn't good enough? Now it turned into a competition. They are all claiming that my whole family is on display and in the wedding, while their family is tossed to the side. Yet I don't understand how they can say that.I have two of my sisters and my littlr brother as a ring bearer (that's my whole family). My fiance has his two brothers and his little brother as his ring bearer. Its even. Its fair. But since he has a bigger family, now his two sisters are feeling left out and tossed to the side. That is why i asked them to be my honorary bridesmaids. So in order to clear the air, I texted them and the mom explaining that I'm sorry they saw bad meanings online and that I didn't intend it to be that way. So I texted them a heart felt description of what honorary bridesmaids meant to me. And they still weren't happy. They want them to stand up with me as bridesmaids because jesse is close to them. Is that even a choice for them to make? (Mind you my family is paying for the entire wedding too) I am in awe that a week into our engagement, his family started rifts and pain. It got my fiance and I bickering about why I cant and don't want his sisters apart of my bridal party. It wind up hurting my fiances feelings due to not willing to sacrifice for his sake. I'm so hurt and angry at them all for caring more about being seen and on display rather than giving my fiance and i some space to love our first week of engagement. All I can say is ungrateful. Am I wrong to feel this way? They never acted this way before and I am so scared that they are finally showing their true colors. What did I get myself into? I dont see how this can get any better. If I change my mind and have them up there with me, im not happy and his sister and family still know i didn't choose them originally. If i keep it the same and as my honorary bridesmaids, they will be upset up until the wedding and my fiance will feel torn because he's just trying to keep me and his family happy and united. What do I do? I am experiencing such pain right now. And anger. Did I do anything wrong?