“Half-Siblings” & Bridal Party

knottie1c593ef379077c0d · December 2020

Hey all! So I’m trying to figure out the best way around this situation. I have 5 total younger siblings (3 sisters and 2 brothers) that are technically half-siblings. Parents divorced when I was really young and I grew up with my dad and mom (step-mom) and 1 brother and 1 sister. I plan to have this sister I grew up with in my bridal party. However, my mom (biological) had 2 daughters in her 2nd marriage that I plan to invite to the wedding but am on the fence about having them in the wedding party. Is this okay? I didn’t grow up with them, but had spent some time with them growing up. They also grew up with their dad which made it tough for us to really see each other. They’re six & seven years younger than me. I should also note my bridal party is currently at 8 people, with one being the sister I grew up with. I just don’t want them to feel like they’re not considered “equal”. Thanks for any help! It’s a messy situation.

MyNameIsNot · December 2020

knottie1c593ef379077c0d said:

Hey all! So I’m trying to figure out the best way around this situation. I have 5 total younger siblings (3 sisters and 2 brothers) that are technically half-siblings. Parents divorced when I was really young and I grew up with my dad and mom (step-mom) and 1 brother and 1 sister. I plan to have this sister I grew up with in my bridal party. However, my mom (biological) had 2 daughters in her 2nd marriage that I plan to invite to the wedding but am on the fence about having them in the wedding party. Is this okay? I didn’t grow up with them, but had spent some time with them growing up. They also grew up with their dad which made it tough for us to really see each other. They’re six & seven years younger than me. I should also note my bridal party is currently at 8 people, with one being the sister I grew up with. I just don’t want them to feel like they’re not considered “equal”. Thanks for any help! It’s a messy situation.

Your wedding party should be your very closest people. There's no reason to include siblings if you aren't super close to them.

If you wanted to, you could always ask them to do readings or music during the ceremony (if they have talent), or you could give them a corsage and seat them with your parents in the front.

short+sassy · December 2020

If you aren't especially close to your half-sisters, then don't ask them to be in your WP. That is perfectly fine and I assume they'd understand, if they even thought about it. If for some reason they are hurt, that's unfortunate, but on them.

FWIW, my own sister did not ask me to be in her WP. No bad blood between us. We love each other, we just aren't that close. I wasn't surprised she didn't ask me and it didn't bother me at all.