I've got some family drama going down and I need people to keep me in line.
Hubby and I reduce our contact. I work from home, and go out for groceries about once every three weeks at this point. Hubby works at home when he can and doesn't see anyone else at all. I've been going to see my parents, usually to go hiking with my mom, so I consider them in my bubble. I occasionally see my brother and his family too, maybe three times since the pandemic? The bubble gets confusing though because my mom sees my brother's family and my cousin and lives with my uncle, so she's actually got a lot of contact going on, so not really a bubble at that point.
My sister and her family were going to come for Christmas. They have low cases in the place where they are, and have also been reducing contact. The week before Christmas they were going to isolate completely (not leaving the house except walking the dog) and come over. Same plan on my end. My mother decided to tell my sister not to come. That's not the issue - I understand people being careful and I want to encourage caution.
Here's why I'm pissed and I need people to tell me to get over it. My mother didn't consult any of us, just made the decision after my cousin told her to. Cousin is sort of like a sibling, so she does get a lot of say, but still, weird that it wasn't discussed amongst anyone else but them. Weirder still that cousin wouldn't be there for the visit. And cousin is the host of our book club, and she is not cancelling that. What the h***? So she is fine with us not seeing family, but not cancelling something that really isn't necessary? Book club is scheduled for two days after Christmas, so all members would have probably seen multiple people just a few days before meeting indoors with a bunch of other people that have done the same. When I said I wasn't coming, cousin basically said "yeah, December gets busy". No, December isn't busy, I'm limiting my contact as much as I can and the holidays is maxing out my contacts even within my bubble. Plus, she's been galivanting all over Ontario because she "misses travelling". Glass houses and stones and all that.
Is book club ends up being cancelled, I'll be less pissed. But right now, I don't get where cousin gets off. She wasn't even going to be there at Christmas, but she thinks she gets a say in cancelling a visit? And is still encouraging me to go to book club? Really?
Okay, now tell me why I'm being ridiculous. I need to see this from another angle.
