My husband is officiating at the wedding of the son of some church friends we met 1.5 years ago — they’ve since moved away. Our son & I were also initially invited to the wedding. We were not able to mail our RSVP card because there was no address on the RSVP envelope. Then before the RSVP date, the groom contacted my husband about me & my son not being able to attend because they want to keep the wedding super small.
The wedding is right during our holiday family gathering & about 3-4 hrs away, so my husband has to get his own hotel room the night of the rehearsal. If he’s paying for his own hotel room & the invitation for my son & I was retracted, would my husband be expected to give a gift to the couple? TIA.