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Make a plan and take the leap.

mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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Dear Prudence,

I’m a college senior, and I’m supposed to graduate in May, and I’m terrified. There are no jobs in my field in my area, so I know I’m going to have to move. I lived on my own for about three months, and it was a categorical disaster. I’ve lived at home for the rest of the time I’ve been in college. I plan on moving to an area where a lot of my family lives (and where jobs are aplenty), but I still feel stuck. I don’t even know where to begin. My parents aren’t much help, and I can’t break the news to them until right before it happens. The whole process seems so overwhelming that I often push it to the back of my mind, but D-Day is looming closer. Do you have any advice?

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Re: Make a plan and take the leap.

  • STARMOON44STARMOON44 member
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    Figure out what, exactly, was a disaster and make a plan to solve it starting now. 
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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    You have months to put a plan in place so start doing that now. Start looking for a job. Start looking for a place to live. Figure out why living along was terrible and make a plan for making sure it doesn’t happen again. 

    In short, it’s time to grow up and be an adult. 
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    You're going to need to think about what went wrong so you can move on. 

    Living on your own isn't going to be the episodes of Friends off the bat.  But you also can't live with your parents forever as a crutch.  
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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    That's a tough letter to give advice because they don't give any indication on why it was a categorical disaster when they lived on their own.

    If it was something concrete, look at ways to keep XYZ from happening again and protect themselves.  But if it was related to their feelings, like anxiety and/or loneliness, maybe some therapy sessions would help to learn how to manage those feelings.  Since they are still in college, they might already have access to a mental health professional.

    It's also concerning they don't feel like they can talk to their parents.  Most parents would already be assuming that their child is leaving the nest sometime after graduating.
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