Gay Traditions?

Re: Gay Traditions?

• missJeanLouise member

  

  February 2021

  zes4669 said:

  Hey Everyone! 

  I am Zac and I am getting married to my amazing finance this October of 2021 in Cancun. We decided on a destination wedding because his family is from Texas and my family is from NC. I have to say that my straight dad recommended this option(he has never travelled)...and he was the one that spoke up.  So instead of spending thousands of dollars in the US we are going to Playa Mujeres Cancun.  

   So - We are chugging along on wedding planning however, I find myself conflicted on wedding traditions I learned from my southern upbringing. I am so blessed to have an amazing family that supports me and my partner. For some time - I didn't think I deserved/thought it would be possible to marry once I realized I was gay. I was so upset (not for myself but for my parents - because I am an only child) that they would not have their "traditional/normal wedding". I am so proud of the people in my life that have been there for me and taught me - at the end of the day "a family is a family" no matter what sex.
  

  So now I want to plan the best wedding of the century. Gay people are so lucky we can create new traditions off of old ones. 

  I am very curious to see what thoughts/ideas you have on this??? I am posting this for advice from straight and gay individuals. I truly want to know what cool ideas you think we should create?

  Personally, I think tradition are there to pick and choose from. There is nothing you "have to" do, only do what is important to you and your future spouse, followed by parents/family if you want to. So doing something with the thought of creating a tradition is kind of a gamble because there is no guarantee that anyone else with want to carry it on.

  But this is coming from someone who's southern MIL called our wedding "untraditional" because we had a fall wedding without pumpkin decor.
  
  What traditions do you want to use? Can you tweak them to be more personal to you and your FI?
  
  

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• short+sassy member

  

  February 2021

  Congrats on your all's engagement!  One warning about getting married in Mexico though is, if you all haven't already done so, check out the requirements for a legal marriage there.  I have never researched it myself, but I've heard they are onerous.
  
  When I married my H, we ditched a lot of the "traditions" because they just didn't make sense for the small wedding/reception we had.
  
  The most important parts of a wedding/reception is to properly host your guests and have a joy-filled day.  Good food, it doesn't even have to be fancy, and full bellies goes a long way toward that, lol.
  
  During an engagement, it can be so easy to get caught up in all the "details" and the wedding industry, social media, and tv shows/movies definitely don't help that!  But, in the end, all the stuff I'd planned and worried about leading up to my wedding...didn't really matter to me on the day of, lol.  I was marrying my H and celebrating with my closest friends and family.  All the rest was nice, but took a major back seat to that.
  
  But it's fun to plan also!  And I guess that's my biggest take away and advice for you.  Enjoy the planning and the anticipation.  But not to a point where it gets stressful or you are putting pressure on yourself to make it "perfect".

  

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