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African American Weddings

Since my last post...

I am happy to report that I am to the point where I honestly don't care anymore. As long as my FH and the pastor are there to marry us, I just don't care. But let me tell you what lead to that point.

My silly bridesmaids about drove me mad. Of all the things that you could be worried about with this wedding, they have drove me NUTS. If I could re-do anything so far, I would only have 1 attendant. They get on my nerves.
Long story short, my one BM thought she was running things and basically planned a bachelorette party that worked best for her, she totally disregarded my wishes or the schedules of the other BM's. I told her to scratch that plan and come up with something that worked better or just to cancel the whole thing. She hasn't spoken with me in two weeks. Also she was planning the shower, and it seems that she had decided to not do that know as well. You know what, I don't even care. I can see that we probably won't be friends (or at least the same kinda friends) after this is over.

One of my BM's just called to tell me that she hasn't gotten her dress and doesn't think that she will be able to afford it. We are 34 days before the wedding.
My last thing was I had my first RSVP snafu, someone decided to added on a guest.
Sigh.
I just don't care. I'm tired of being stressed. So I just focusing on the ceremony and being with my sweetie.

In other news... I found my shoes, the venue and DJ is paid for. The cake will be paid for by Tuesday. I am determined to focus on the good stuff, or I will go postal.
Anniversary

Re: Since my last post...

  • edited December 2011
    That's right..FOCUS ON THE GOOD! One of my BMs (that is supposed to be my "best friend) has driven me up a wall! I am beyond tired and I just threw my hands up and decided to focus more on the people who are there for me, who love me and support me no matter what. What's important is that YOU and your FUTURE HUSBAND have your stuff together & that's it!!! As long as you stress about what someone else is doing, you will always be stressed! Focus only on things you can control! 34 days to go.. almost there!
  • edited December 2011
    Kim I have 1 attendant and she gets on my nerves!!!!!  She means well but has no aptitude for details, so I had to bring in a behind the scenes team to take care of stuff she is unable to do. 

    She is wearing a dress she already owns which is fine, but asked me to remind her to pack all the stuff she needs for my wedding.  Really?!?!?!!?!!  Not sure why I have to be responsible for you on my wedding day.  I'll have my own stuff together and be where I need to be on Friday. If she is missing something she will have to live without it or sit her butt down with my parents.  I didn't really ask for attendants so I won't die if I end up not having someone stand next to me.  My BTS team has done more for me that I could have ever asked, so I am grateful for their support.  

    6 days....   
    Anniversary
  • edited December 2011
    Awe hugs to you! Continue to focus on the important things! Don't let the little things and people get you stressed. I will be praying that you will have a calm mind and spirit as you progress toward your big day. and Congrats on your checks!! :)
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_last-post?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:c839a396-b5cb-470d-9e38-c59c5d3e73abPost:776ae560-d3cb-4433-9008-e33719dabfee">Re: Since my last post...</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>Awe hugs to you! Continue to focus on the important things! Don't let the little things and people get you stressed. I will be praying that you will have a calm mind and spirit as you progress toward your big day. and Congrats on your checks!! :)
    </strong>Posted by PrettyCW5[/QUOTE]

    All of this!
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