Hi all!
Quick question! My fiancé and I were planning on getting married last June, and had to postpone to this June due to Covid. We are starting to put our invites together to send out for June. We had previously sent out invites last year, and then sent out postponement notices to everyone about a month before our wedding. We are not having kids at our wedding. And we put a "# of seats reserved in your honor" on our RSVP cards, just to make sure there was no confusion.
I received a text from a couple we had invited (who has 6 kids, who I cannot even name) and the wife texted me saying "I noticed the invite was only addressed to Joe and I... seriously no kids??". I sent a polite response saying that since we are having a formal wedding, we decided not to invite kids, and that we hoped she could still come and enjoy the night. Not that it really matters, but her and her husband regularly go out without the kids, and I know they have no issue hiring a sitter.
She then responded "We won't be going. Sorry. We'd love to but we just want out kids to be involved so since they can't be we will have to pass".
So now my question is do we send them another invite for our new date? If they had been unable to find a sitter, couldn't afford it, etc. I would absolutely be sending them another invite. But I feel as if the wife was taking a stand and just trying to show me up since her kids would not be able to attend. I would rather not invite them again, but I know that etiquette wise, technically they should be receiving an invite. Honestly, I am not too worried about if they are upset about not getting any invite as we are not super close (it's my step dads nephew and wife). I just can't believe the response she gave me, and it really rubbed me the wrong way and sort of stung.
Any advice would be appreciated!