UPDATE: I addressed the situation again and she completely agreed that she wasn’t as available as what she first thought she was and didn’t want to hurt me by saying she wanted out. it has nothing to do with my “rules” or me being a “bridezilla”.
I am well aware that there are many similar posts but many are super old. Times have changed and I would like fresh opinions. I’m getting married in 103 days. All but one of my bridesmaids have been super pumped and wonderful at helping. The one that isn’t, is causing a lot of drama.
1. She texted me saying that other girls were talking bad about her at a party. i addressed my wedding party as a whole and stated that it wouldn’t be tolerated. i also talked to the individuals girls and they gave me a completely different story. both girls story matched and they didn’t communicate before hand as it was kind of a surprise attack.
2. i made it very clear from the start that i would be approving the bridesmaid dresses before they were bought. they’re being bought from azazie so i created a showroom with dresses i liked. the showroom has MANY styles for many body types. i also made it very clear that we would need to order within 24 hours of the first order in order to get them from the same dye lot. i just found out she bought a dress without telling me. she won’t show me what it looks like. all i know is that it’s dusty rose and strapless. strapless dresses are not allowed at our church. that’s why i wanted to approve them first.
3. there’s always an excuse for why she can’t make it to any events. she isn’t coming to my bachelorette party, probably not coming to my bridal shower, and will only be able to meet with all of us girls the day before the wedding. she wouldn’t even come get measured for bridesmaid dresses with us.
4. she doesn’t want to get anything done professionally. i’m paying for everyone’s hair, makeup and nails. the only thing they have to pay for is their dress. she will not get any of the above done professionally. she’s had it done professionally for the two other weddings she’s been in though.
5. i asked her if the bridesmaid position was too much for her and something like a personal attendant would be better. she completely flipped everything on me saying i just must not want her in my wedding and that she’s making so many sacrifices for it.
I know everyone has their own personal responsibilities and interests. I’m well aware that my wedding is not everyone’s life. All I ask for is participation and respect. I’m getting neither of those. i’m at a total lose of what to do. any advice would be great. negative comments are not needed and will not be acknowledged. thank you in advance!!