My sisters are my bridesmaids because we have a small family and it just made sense. One of them I'm close with and the other one I'm not super close with but we still talk regularly. With that said I love them both and would never want to hurt anyones feelings so I need some advice. We are 4 months away from my wedding and my sister, who im not close with, has decided to pierce her septum, wants to dye her hair red before the wedding, and wants to start a sleeve tattoo now too. It's all catching me a bit off guard as she knows I'm pretty conservative when it comes to appearance and she has not made any significant changes to her appearance in many years. I would understand if this was something she always did but its not, and it's a lot all at once and I dont know how to feel. I would really appreciate it if she held off on any major physical changes until after my wedding but is that even something I can even ask her? I dont know if I should feel like a jerk for thinking this or feel like a pushover for not asking her to please hold off just a little longer (since she has gone over 35 years without any big physical changes). This wedding stuff is stressful enough as it is, but I dont want to be a bridezilla and maybe I'm just being over emotional? *quick note - she likes to push my moms buttons and this would upset her too this close to the wedding but I'm trying to be optimistic that this isnt why she is making these changes*