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Classic: take the seat...or don't.

I’m a woman who uses public transportation daily. On a regular basis, people offer me their seats on the train or bus, even when other women are standing closer to them. Most people don’t say why they’re offering, but one woman did ask me directly if I was expecting. I’m not pregnant, and I never have been, but I’m assuming that the seat offers are from people who think I am. My question is: Am I allowed to take the seat offers? Sometimes I’ve taken the seats offered, and my friend says this is wrong because I’m neither pregnant nor disabled. My argument is that I’m being offered a seat without any conditions and would never take it from someone who seemed like they needed it more than I did (i.e., an elderly person). Am I being deceptive, or is it OK to take a seat if it’s freely given?

Re: Classic: take the seat...or don't.

  • Whatever. Take the seat. People are offering, regardless of why.
    I've offered seats to people when I know my stop is coming close
  • LW is either exhausting or their friends are...or both.  

    Take the seat if offered, or say, 'no thanks'.  This is not a moral dilemma. 
  • Sit if you want to sit. Decline if you don’t. I promise no one is thinking about it ever again. 
  • What a weird question.  If someone offers you a seat, there's no need to delve into their motives.  Take the seat if you want it or say, "Thanks!  But I'm fine," if you don't want it.

    Though I think some of this is coming from the LW's insecurity.  It sounds like, especially from that rude stranger's comment, that the LW thinks their body shape can lead people to believe she is pregnant.

    I wish I could hug the LW and reassure her that not everyone who offers her a seat, thinks she is pregnant.  It could be any number of reasons and people are just nice sometimes.
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