Bridesmaidzilla

Re: Bridesmaidzilla

• climbingsingle member

  

  August 2021

  knottiefacc428842fd7acc said:

  I have I bridesmaid that got engaged 4 months after me. And I scheduled my wedding and planned it and then she tells me she moved her wedding up to a month before mine. Since then she has now picked a similar wedding dress to mine and her venue and decor is similar to mine. My fiancé and I asked her and her boyfriend to be in our wedding as bridesmaid and groomsmen. And I just found out she asked my fiancé to be her fiancé’s groomsmen and then asked home if it was rude to not ask me. Also in the beginning I was showing her how I wanted different color bridesmaid dresses and called dibs on the colors and told me it was stupid to do short dresses instead of long like she wanted.  In conclusion I’m excited to marry the man I love but my bridesmaid makes me not excited for my wedding anymore. Any advice? 

  You called dibs on a color? 
  
  Listen, in the grand scheme of things, these details don't matter. So what if her dress is similar? A lot of venues/decor have similar styles. I honestly can't remember the details of many of the weddings I've attended. 
  
  Stop discussing your wedding with her. Don't tell her about the dress, decorations, etc. If she brings it up, change the subject. Don't let one person ruin your excitement for getting married. It's not worth it. Have a drink and a cupcake. 

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• MyNameIsNot member

  

  August 2021

  knottiefacc428842fd7acc said:

  I have I bridesmaid that got engaged 4 months after me. And I scheduled my wedding and planned it and then she tells me she moved her wedding up to a month before mine. Since then she has now picked a similar wedding dress to mine and her venue and decor is similar to mine. My fiancé and I asked her and her boyfriend to be in our wedding as bridesmaid and groomsmen. And I just found out she asked my fiancé to be her fiancé’s groomsmen and then asked home if it was rude to not ask me. Also in the beginning I was showing her how I wanted different color bridesmaid dresses and called dibs on the colors and told me it was stupid to do short dresses instead of long like she wanted.  In conclusion I’m excited to marry the man I love but my bridesmaid makes me not excited for my wedding anymore. Any advice? 

  I'm not sure I understand why you're upset at her. Do you think she should have asked you to be a bridesmaid? Wedding parties aren't tit for tat, she doesn't need to ask you because you asked her. 
  
  It really sounds like you're upset that she's also getting married. She's allowed to live her life and get married on her own timeline. She gets to choose whatever dress, decor, and colors she wants. Honestly, if someone else's wedding is making you not want to get married, it's probably time to rethink whether you want to get married for the right reasons or if you're more focused on the attention and show. 

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• banana468 member

  

  August 2021

  Dibs? 
  
  These are individual events that you're planning.  Instead of turning it into a competition know that this is your wedding and her wedding. 
  
  I remember attending a friend's wedding years ago and a friend of hers told her now H that she couldn't show up without being engaged.  Making lifelong commitments isn't a contest and by the one-upsmanship it is likely one of the contributing factors to the divorce rate. 

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• flantastic member

  

  August 2021

  People are not going to notice if your weddings are similar. Weddings are generally similar. It's fine. What makes them special to the guests is their relationship with the people getting married.
  
  Choose whatever details you want and let her do the same. If you're worried she's copying you, you can a) stop sharing details with her (my recommended strategy if she is also belittling your choices) or b) take it as a compliment that she thinks you have good taste.

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• Jen4948 member

  

  September 2021

  If your concern is that she is copying your wedding, I would just stop discussing your wedding with her. The two weddings will not be identical.

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• forevermarriedbrainshadia newb

  

  September 2021

  Now that she knows what your wedding decorations look like dont tell her anything else. And if you feel like you dont want your wedding to look the same as hers then just move things around a bit to make things look different.

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