Had to remove a bridesmaid. Fun ideas to ask another good friend.

knottie841fb77e60dcbd3e · October 2021

I had to remove a bridesmaid from the wedding party. I don't think its necessary to get into details, however, she let me down on multiple occasions and unfortunately our friendship has suffered.

However, I have another friend who I know wont feel slighted or disrespected by me asking her after the fact. I have a brunch planned with her but am looking for cute suggestions or punny jokes to ask her. We both have a great attitude and send of humour.

Please help, this disappointed Bride turn her day around

ei34 · October 2021

knottie841fb77e60dcbd3e said:

I had to remove a bridesmaid from the wedding party. I don't think its necessary to get into details, however, she let me down on multiple occasions and unfortunately our friendship has suffered.

However, I have another friend who I know wont feel slighted or disrespected by me asking her after the fact. I have a brunch planned with her but am looking for cute suggestions or punny jokes to ask her. We both have a great attitude and send of humour.

Please help, this disappointed Bride turn her day around

Just ask. If the question is a big production it's more awkward to decline (I've declined a couple of times but thankfully I didn't receive one of those over-the-top BM proposal boxes).

VarunaTT · October 2021

Why do you need to replace the BM at all? Just move forward.

mrsconn23 · October 2021

I agree with @ei34.

Also, how do you know she won't be offended that she got wedding party b-listed?

I'm old and shaking my cane here, but your WP should be the people who are closest to you and provide their love and support to you moving from single to married person. Parties and showers and all that are just gravy. It's not a tick list where if someone doesn't fit the 'mold', you can call the next person up in the batting order.

levioosa · October 2021

If you removed the other BM because she wasn’t “doing her BM duties,” then you were in the wrong. The only thing anyone in the bridal party has to do is show up on time, in the correct attire, in good spirits, and reasonably sober. That’s it. Sides also don’t have to be “even” in the wedding party.

If this was a separate friendship issue, then ask who you want to ask. It’s usually not a great look to ask people after asking everyone else or if someone is no longer part of the bridal party.

banana468 · October 2021

mrsconn23 said:

I agree with @ei34.

Also, how do you know she won't be offended that she got wedding party b-listed?

I'm old and shaking my cane here, but your WP should be the people who are closest to you and provide their love and support to you moving from single to married person. Parties and showers and all that are just gravy. It's not a tick list where if someone doesn't fit the 'mold', you can call the next person up in the batting order.

This.

The older I get the more I'm in the zone of being my friend is not about what I can do for your or what you can do for me or "me letting you down".

But if you are certain that this person is fine being asked later then ask. I think it's important to stress that your WP is not a cast. Don't treat it like a spot opened up. Treat it like you wished you asked her earlier and are asking her now.

climbingsingle · October 2021

knottie841fb77e60dcbd3e said:

I had to remove a bridesmaid from the wedding party. I don't think its necessary to get into details, however, she let me down on multiple occasions and unfortunately our friendship has suffered.

However, I have another friend who I know wont feel slighted or disrespected by me asking her after the fact. I have a brunch planned with her but am looking for cute suggestions or punny jokes to ask her. We both have a great attitude and send of humour.

Please help, this disappointed Bride turn her day around

Why do you need to replace with her with a back up choice? I don't care how many puns someone threw out that - I'd clearly know I was a backup and that wouldn't make me feel good.